"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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LTR going downhill

Redman10

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In LTR over two years. Don't live together. We broke up for a month, she beg me back, I took her back. Anyway she has been distant of late, no invites to her home,blames busy work schedules. I use to stay over now says she prefers if I don't for a while as her 6 year old child wakes up with nightmares and come in her bed smh. I said fine!! This was never a problem before when her child woke up. She use to beg me to stay. She does come to mine occasionally and sex seems to be only when she in the mood. I did slip into AFC and call her out on it and she said I am moaning. I believe she has downgraded me as a part-time lover. I know,go spin plates etc...I have now started to withdraw myself and not initiate calls or texts....I will not call her out again on this...i will probably find a more available girl and learn by mistakes and keep this one as FB or just throw her.....am i right guys?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Milano

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You know what to do, it sux but sounds like she has found someone else as well so just dump that single mother and let some other beta take care of her kid. She will reach out to you after you go NC and then you can lol fu.

Another problem I have with a breakup but still having s3x after is that a woman WILL find some of her old buddies with muscles and tattoos to fuk again and that just makes me lose all respect for them as humans so better to just have some self respect and use the hand for a while if you cant meet other girls. If you dont have feelings then ofc np
 

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Only a desperate man would keep associating with this girl.
 

The Duke

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Its time to cut ties. If you stick around, she'll only cause you pain and frustration. Don't believe any of these excuses. Trust your gut.
 

resilient

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Agree with the other DJs. Take the higher ground and walk. You'll have a much easier time emotionally healing by phasing this woman out. Keeping her around as a FB prolongs the pain of an eventually breakup that needs to happen while her interest level continues to drop. You rebuild her self-respect by walking away.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Redman10

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She is a single mother that you have LTR'd 2 years. Why?

Doubtful that you'll move on swiftly, because if you had that mentality, you wouldn't be there in the first place.

Time to put up, or shut up. Use her as a platform to step up, or just continue to rubbish yourself in the garbage.

Consider it a test of your character.
Your right, I will use as a platform to step up!
 

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You know what to do, it sux but sounds like she has found someone else as well so just dump that single mother and let some other beta take care of her kid. She will reach out to you after you go NC and then you can lol fu.

Another problem I have with a breakup but still having s3x after is that a woman WILL find some of her old buddies with muscles and tattoos to fuk again and that just makes me lose all respect for them as humans so better to just have some self respect and use the hand for a while if you cant meet other girls. If you dont have feelings then ofc np
ofc?
 
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