"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LTR going downhill. need advice

BobFuest

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lately in my LTR of 9 months we have been fighting a bit. The last fight we had was because she had been up all night drinking (me too) and I asked her if she was ok. She said fine and then asked why, so i told her she wasnt making any sense and she kept starting things she wouldnt finish (like start the shower and then not want to take a shower). She took it as me putting her down. but you could tell she was suffering from lack of sleep. This fight really pissed me off because if I cant talk to her about me worrying about her health then wtf can i talk to her about. I admit I have a bad attitude but I was not trying to put her down (as she believes).
I tell her no i wont put up with her starting fights over nothing and then when she does I tell her "hey, no dont even start". Then all i get is, 'your not my dad, stop acting like it".
I am losing ground fast and not sure what to do. I dont like this attitude and I need to put her in place but i want to keep her. It hasnt been so long that we cant change this but it needs to be remedied soon or I might as well move on. What do you guys think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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speedo_meme

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Didn't you just post something like this maybe a week ago?
 

BobFuest

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haha true. yea i didnt realize but not sure if any of that advice really helped me.
 
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Warlord

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Work it out with her, if it seems the fighting is continuous you might want to think about dumping her.
 

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Originally posted by BobFuest
Then all i get is, 'your not my dad, stop acting like it".
NEXT!

1.) This woman has zero respect for you.
2.) This woman doesn't appreciate your genuine concern for her wellbeing.
3.) You're 26! WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN AN LTR!! Run like the wind, here's your chance.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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