PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
When you find your real wife you would be willing to move with her. This girl juat wasnt it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LTR, gf was detained and deported.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I respect this comment and agree with it to a degree. But the thing is whether you think one is "the one" or not, women are a gamble. And while I do believe I would be content spending my life with this girl, I just can't put all my eggs in this basket under these circumstances. Moving to Mexico just is not practical.PrettyBoyAJ said:
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Exactly. You summed it up yourself.
sexyfaceme
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This is romantic man! Seriously! Play hank moody.
sorry to hear that dude
i just had similar experience with overseas girlfriend apart from her being deported
we had to marry in short space of time otherwise she would get kicked out country
marriage was a huge step in such a small space of time but i really loved her too
basically due to so much pressure over it we ended up breaking up and she went home..
dam its tough especially when you love each other so much
best way to stay positive is to reaslise deep down how hard overseas romances are. they will be completely dependent on you without there families here that causes huge amount of pressure. was she close to her family ?
i just had similar experience with overseas girlfriend apart from her being deported
we had to marry in short space of time otherwise she would get kicked out country
marriage was a huge step in such a small space of time but i really loved her too
basically due to so much pressure over it we ended up breaking up and she went home..
dam its tough especially when you love each other so much
best way to stay positive is to reaslise deep down how hard overseas romances are. they will be completely dependent on you without there families here that causes huge amount of pressure. was she close to her family ?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Hey man thanks and sorry for your loss as well.HeMan said:
The thing with us was marriage was no longer even an option when this went down. It was simply too late. Unbeknownst to me apparently her and her family were given a voluntary deportation that they neglected to abide by, and that's why she was given this order of deportation.
The immigration laws are so harsh and strict right now, that the more I read into this the more I realized how hopeless it was. Marriage, having a kid in the States, any of that, means nothing these days if entered illegally or deported.
Talking to her on the phone did nothing but increase the pain for both of us, and shortly we realized we were just pipe dreaming about me moving there and what not.
Bottom line I've learned is getting involved with someone in a situation like this is just asking for problems and heart ache, it ain't worth it.
MyTeamSupreme
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if you knew she wasnt a citizen why were you dragging your feet to marry her
Well at this point I'm glad I didn't cause at the time I wasn't aware of these harsh immigration laws. Even if I would have she STILL would have to go back to Mexico and wait 10 years before legally being able to reenter.MyTeamSupreme said:
Anyone that enters illegally and overstays a voluntary deportation gets hit with a 10 year ban, regardless of marriage or kids. They don't play that anymore.
They have cracked down on these laws so much that it just would not have been worth it, nor is it worth pursuing any further.
Well we have been keeping in touch and talking on the phone daily.
Where it stands now she says her mom is going to move back there with her and acquired a nice bit of money selling their cars and assets, and they plan on buying a house in a beach area down there.
She wants me to move there with them, and said no worries on me working or anything, that she would take care of me and her family is totally cool with me living with them. On top of that she even said if for some reason it weren't to work out she wouldn't leave me hanging and break me off with a nice chunk of change for my troubles. I know to judge a woman by actions and not words, but knowing her I know she is a woman of her word. She also said we could get married asap as soon as I get there.
I am still not sure and am weighing my options. We pretty much agreed that we will give it some time and if 6 months from now or so if we are still unhappy and want to be together we may consider me moving down there. But before making a bold move like that I have got to give it some time. We will see.
I think I am going to put in for some vacation time and see her in the summer as well and see how she is doing, and what I would be getting myself into.
Where it stands now she says her mom is going to move back there with her and acquired a nice bit of money selling their cars and assets, and they plan on buying a house in a beach area down there.
She wants me to move there with them, and said no worries on me working or anything, that she would take care of me and her family is totally cool with me living with them. On top of that she even said if for some reason it weren't to work out she wouldn't leave me hanging and break me off with a nice chunk of change for my troubles. I know to judge a woman by actions and not words, but knowing her I know she is a woman of her word. She also said we could get married asap as soon as I get there.
I am still not sure and am weighing my options. We pretty much agreed that we will give it some time and if 6 months from now or so if we are still unhappy and want to be together we may consider me moving down there. But before making a bold move like that I have got to give it some time. We will see.
I think I am going to put in for some vacation time and see her in the summer as well and see how she is doing, and what I would be getting myself into.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.