Ive been with my girl now for about 6 months. She has always playfully called me an ass when i tease her. Well today i was being myself and she got all quiet and then told me i was pissing her off.... i said ok... then she looked at me all mad and goes you know your a jerk, your lucky i love you so much. Next thing you know we are in a full out argument.... MY question is do you guys think that me being sarcastic and playfull has been pissing her off the whole time ?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LTR GF threw a shot at me
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I see alot of people using techniques and quick fixes to get somewhere and to get certain reaction, but their inner game is non-existent. Everything you do, C/F, neg-hit, playfulness, being horny and etc etc etc, has to be congruent with your personality and doing for the sake of doing it because you read it here out of context will lead you to such outcomes.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
Your problem is the C&F, few months in the field I realized that you can't overdo the C&F. I only overdo C&F on party girls thats about it but I stop the C&F when i get towards rapport stage and usually just roll with push/pull dynamic.
In my case when I was being C&F with this 1 specific girl after awhile she kept saying "your an ass", "your such an as$hole", "for real stoppp", "fuvk you", "Shut the fuvk up" lol. Man I can go on, but ya after awhile everything was going backwards because of this. (I didn't see it until it was too late) Thing was that I used to love the reaction of C&F so much dat I just turned into a C&F guy. After I actually got her I should have stopped with all dat C&F and just kept using push/pull./
So the answer to ur question is "yes" it is most likely pissing her off, also you should have never argued with her, never argue with a girl, or show that ur angry at them.
In my case when I was being C&F with this 1 specific girl after awhile she kept saying "your an ass", "your such an as$hole", "for real stoppp", "fuvk you", "Shut the fuvk up" lol. Man I can go on, but ya after awhile everything was going backwards because of this. (I didn't see it until it was too late) Thing was that I used to love the reaction of C&F so much dat I just turned into a C&F guy. After I actually got her I should have stopped with all dat C&F and just kept using push/pull./
So the answer to ur question is "yes" it is most likely pissing her off, also you should have never argued with her, never argue with a girl, or show that ur angry at them.
GuitarOnFire
Senior Don Juan
She threw a shot at you? That's grounds for a break-up in my books.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
come on
You cant break up with her for such a small thing, just pretend like it never happened and dont get to bent out of shape about it and just lay low. Then like just call her once a week and then take her out to a nice place and dine her and **** and treat her like a lady and she will appreciate that. Make sure you dont call for a week though, cuz that helps build the surprise for the weekend.
Then have sex in a nice motel, and laugh and just talk about nice things like her dreams and sh*t and her aspirations and tell her "i remember you telling me you wanted X from life, the other day I was thinking about you and I never realized how smart you where for knowing what you want to do in life already or baby its great to have you by my side.
Then dont call for a few days again, and then have a low key date with some C&F.
You cant break up with her for such a small thing, just pretend like it never happened and dont get to bent out of shape about it and just lay low. Then like just call her once a week and then take her out to a nice place and dine her and **** and treat her like a lady and she will appreciate that. Make sure you dont call for a week though, cuz that helps build the surprise for the weekend.
Then have sex in a nice motel, and laugh and just talk about nice things like her dreams and sh*t and her aspirations and tell her "i remember you telling me you wanted X from life, the other day I was thinking about you and I never realized how smart you where for knowing what you want to do in life already or baby its great to have you by my side.
Then dont call for a few days again, and then have a low key date with some C&F.
Bourne & Distant Light
u guys made very good points.
when u established ur LTR using C&F is good but only once in a while. Itll stay freash that way and ull have a better outcome.
The push and pull method on the other hand is GOLD.
...still dont over due this either.
Have ur life balanced.
u guys made very good points.
when u established ur LTR using C&F is good but only once in a while. Itll stay freash that way and ull have a better outcome.
The push and pull method on the other hand is GOLD.
...still dont over due this either.
Have ur life balanced.
GuitarOnFire
Senior Don Juan
No girl wants a pushover. If you start letting her getting away with disrespect and not draw the line, you're giving away your own sense of self-respect for her validation.
Socialreject
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Here is what you do when a woman (any woman) starts 'b1tching'... nothing. Or you simply say 'i understand' and hear her out, if she keeps on going you have to be somewhere. Mostly they are having a bad mood and just want to whine about it for a while. Arguing escalates the situation, being 'thoughful and sensitive' is like saying 'good! i love it when you whine, here's a cookie'
In my book any and everything that comes out of a womans mouth in that whiny tone of voice = blahblahblahblahblahblah... ie.. woman problems. They aren't 'real' problems, they are emotional type problems that make no sense whatsoever, most likely sparked by some hormone spike ;-)
If a woman really has a problem and actually wants the problem 'fixed' she will say 'can you help me?'.
Woman: blahblah i don't like blahblah blahd and i hate it when blahblahblah
you: i understand...
Woman: ok!
...
In my book any and everything that comes out of a womans mouth in that whiny tone of voice = blahblahblahblahblahblah... ie.. woman problems. They aren't 'real' problems, they are emotional type problems that make no sense whatsoever, most likely sparked by some hormone spike ;-)
If a woman really has a problem and actually wants the problem 'fixed' she will say 'can you help me?'.
Woman: blahblah i don't like blahblah blahd and i hate it when blahblahblah
you: i understand...
Woman: ok!
...
Exactly. I prefer 'poor baby' as it shows I care, am not trying to fix the situation, but am not rewarding her too much, plus it infantalises her, which is always a good idea.Socialreject said:Here is what you do when a woman (any woman) starts 'b1tching'... nothing. Or you simply say 'i understand' and hear her out, if she keeps on going you have to be somewhere. Mostly they are having a bad mood and just want to whine about it for a while. Arguing escalates the situation, being 'thoughful and sensitive' is like saying 'good! i love it when you whine, here's a cookie'
In my book any and everything that comes out of a womans mouth in that whiny tone of voice = blahblahblahblahblahblah... ie.. woman problems. They aren't 'real' problems, they are emotional type problems that make no sense whatsoever, most likely sparked by some hormone spike ;-)
If a woman really has a problem and actually wants the problem 'fixed' she will say 'can you help me?'.
Woman: blahblah i don't like blahblah blahd and i hate it when blahblahblah
you: i understand...
Woman: ok!
...
Maybe this woman was just in a bad mood that day, or maybe it's symptomatic of a deeper problem. I don't think there's any need to stop being ****y and funny in a LTR - it should be part of your personality and not an act to be dropped.
The key to maintaining a LTR is imagination, creativity and fun. Okay, that's three keys. And *occasionally* having to be patient when their hormones send them bat****.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
JPFromTally
Senior Don Juan
Who cares??? If your girlfriend has enough balls to argue with you then she's not afraid of you. If she's not afraid of you then she doesn't respect you.
brucevangeorge
Banned
I think it's time to take that biatch down!!! Just get her into a headlock... and (have you eve wathced WWF?) anyway, you get her into a deadlock and BAM!!! Just slam her face into the ground.
She won't be so pretty anymore but at least she will respect you.
She won't be so pretty anymore but at least she will respect you.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
lol that just reminded me on how I got the girl to show me more respect. (Note this girl wasn't my gf so don't know how well it would go)brucevangeorge said:
Anyway she says it and I say "Stop saying that or next time I'm going to give you a spanking." Next time she does it I give her a semi hard spank, even better if she has a bubble butt.