Soyoushave
Don Juan
Hi!
Instead of some stupid intro, let's just get to the case.
I've been in a LTR for over 3 years. Things went really good, untill I started my interns (medical student). I live over a 100 miles from where my gf lives. It never used to be a problem, since I had a lot of free time (in which I had to study, but I could do that at her home just as easy).
So now I'm almost 24/7 in my college-town, where I have really long days. In this town I have some friends, but most of my friends (all my good friends) live in my home-town (where my gf lives too).
This situation makes that the relationship is going cr@ppier by the minute. At a certain point we hit rock bottom and discussed everything that was wrong in the relationship. She tries to be a better person ever since that conversation (well, more of 7 sessions in a weeks time). I however don't really feel that connected to her. Also...and this is fvcked up, I met a friend last week (when she was out of the country) and I started to get feelings for her. I know 99% sure that she doesn't. There are a couple of friends who know this and they all understand how I feel, but don't ever see this (friend+me) happen. Which kind of saddens me (not really what you call an ego-boost).
I do still have feelings for my gf, but I'm really in a doubt.
The sh!tty part is that I'm so busy with my study that I simply don't have time (well, sometimes once ever 3 weekends 1 day). The things I see and do are pretty heavy and it's really nice to know that there is someone who knows you and to whom you can talk. So I don't want to lose my gf (I'm not afraid of her breaking up with me, she won't
).
On the other hand I would really just like to know if I can get that other girl to like me. Nothing even has to happen. I guess it's more of a "told you I can do it" to friends.
This girl knows I'm in a relationship, we hardly ever talk and she's not into me.
Questions:
-How do I get this girl to like me (I don't mind a long term project. It's not about getting my low self esteem higher, since there are other girls that do like me, I just want to get this one to like me)
-What do you think about this situation? (Apart from all the above, I love my study, but I feel imprisoned at the same time);
-Any other people who are living in a different town than their friends and have a hard time getting social? (maybe even other interns?)
Instead of some stupid intro, let's just get to the case.
I've been in a LTR for over 3 years. Things went really good, untill I started my interns (medical student). I live over a 100 miles from where my gf lives. It never used to be a problem, since I had a lot of free time (in which I had to study, but I could do that at her home just as easy).
So now I'm almost 24/7 in my college-town, where I have really long days. In this town I have some friends, but most of my friends (all my good friends) live in my home-town (where my gf lives too).
This situation makes that the relationship is going cr@ppier by the minute. At a certain point we hit rock bottom and discussed everything that was wrong in the relationship. She tries to be a better person ever since that conversation (well, more of 7 sessions in a weeks time). I however don't really feel that connected to her. Also...and this is fvcked up, I met a friend last week (when she was out of the country) and I started to get feelings for her. I know 99% sure that she doesn't. There are a couple of friends who know this and they all understand how I feel, but don't ever see this (friend+me) happen. Which kind of saddens me (not really what you call an ego-boost).
I do still have feelings for my gf, but I'm really in a doubt.
The sh!tty part is that I'm so busy with my study that I simply don't have time (well, sometimes once ever 3 weekends 1 day). The things I see and do are pretty heavy and it's really nice to know that there is someone who knows you and to whom you can talk. So I don't want to lose my gf (I'm not afraid of her breaking up with me, she won't
). On the other hand I would really just like to know if I can get that other girl to like me. Nothing even has to happen. I guess it's more of a "told you I can do it" to friends.
This girl knows I'm in a relationship, we hardly ever talk and she's not into me.
Questions:
-How do I get this girl to like me (I don't mind a long term project. It's not about getting my low self esteem higher, since there are other girls that do like me, I just want to get this one to like me
)-What do you think about this situation? (Apart from all the above, I love my study, but I feel imprisoned at the same time);
-Any other people who are living in a different town than their friends and have a hard time getting social? (maybe even other interns?)