So I have recently found a women who is lucky enough to be in a relationship with me. She really is everything I want in a woman. Smart, funny, honest, goal oriented, good looking. Now I have been in a few LTR in the past and I have made some mistakes with other girls. I know now that I am older and more experience how to avoid them. For example not making a girl the center of your world. Having a life of your own and friends of your own. And that jealousy is a silly emotion that should not affect a serious relationship. With that being said I know I am still young (23) and have much to learn. So I am asking what are some thing you have learned to make a relationship last. Any advise is helpful.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LTR and your thoughts on them.
- Thread starter dnhunter
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
P
perseverance
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You need to find someone who is willing to put an equal amount of effort into the relationship, otherwise it becomes a case of people taking and not giving. All relationships require work and effort on both people's part. If one person starts being apathetic towards the relationship, the rot will set in and once that sets in your relationship is doomed to fall apart.
Think of a relationship along the lines of a team. If one member of a team isn't pulling their weight, the team will suffer as a result.
Think of a relationship along the lines of a team. If one member of a team isn't pulling their weight, the team will suffer as a result.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
thing you have learned to make a relationship last.
Think it, don't say it. Work on the filter between your brain and your mouth. Being able to choose your words in a calculated fashion is a valuable skill in any setting.
Think it, don't say it. Work on the filter between your brain and your mouth. Being able to choose your words in a calculated fashion is a valuable skill in any setting.
What people above me have said, also it is very important that you do not take her for granted but you also need to respect yourself and tell her when she's crossing some lines. Call her out on her BS in a respectful yet clear manner.
Also if it's going to be a LTR you will need to learn her body language down to a T because they very much still do talk in cryptic language, however if you are with this girl for a long time it will become much easier to pick up her signals.
Example: "No it's ok you go hang out with your friends. It's fine". IT IS NOT FINE, she's disappointed and possibly upset.
Also if it's going to be a LTR you will need to learn her body language down to a T because they very much still do talk in cryptic language, however if you are with this girl for a long time it will become much easier to pick up her signals.
Example: "No it's ok you go hang out with your friends. It's fine". IT IS NOT FINE, she's disappointed and possibly upset.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.