LTR and Sex.

[pvf94]

Short and simple, I dont get laid as much as I would like to in my ltr. We both are physically attracted to each other, and we have sex about 5 to 6 days out of the month...rarely more then that.

Any insight on the situation?

She is getting on birth control soon, hopefully that will season things up a little bit.

Also we dont have a whole lot of pure alone time with a whole house to ourselves....maybe a room.

Point is when shes horny she wants d!ck. When shes not she will let me hit it but I dont enjoy it if shes not into it.

How the hell do I get her to desire more sex from me?? :rock:

 

[shottywerd]

How long have you two been together?
How many days of the week do you see each other?
How often do you spend the night?

 

[pvf94]

1. going on 9 months.
2. 5-7
3. Never, she lives at home and so do I. Im 20 she is 18.

 

[shottywerd]

As you wrote in one of your threads in the past, it very might well just be the girl. Or like you said in another thread, it might be you.

These two problems are not a good combination for a very healthy sex life. You both are immature/inexperienced. Spin some plates, find new girls, get more experience.

Edit: On a less harsh note, here's a short term solution: You see her way too much, give her the gift of missing you. When you do hang out, be isolated. Hang out in basements, bedrooms, etc.

Me and my LTR of 10 months have fvcked more times than the days we've spent together.

 

[pvf94]

Same girl shottywerd, dont have that problem anymore. I was just nervous the first couple times with her for some reason. Im good to go now.

Her last boyfriend got to fvck her everyday because she used to be on birth control 2 years ago and he played mind games with her...said she didnt want to have sex that much but he was abusive and now she realizes it.

When we do have sex its really good sex. But I think from what I have heard from her and what I can gauge it is a combination of these things.

Chance of getting pregnant do to just using condoms.

Her best friend got pregnant before she moved her to this state.

Shes not on birth control at this point and time, but soon.

Her mom or dad or both are usually home at her house when I am there because her father doesn't work anymore. So when they go out to eat...pending on the time of month if she is pmsing or on the rag we will usually end up doing it.

And if we are at my home I live in a damn mobile home and my brother or mom or dad are able to just walk in at anytime so it makes it hard.

Thing is, if she is really horny we fvck at her house regardless of who is there because nobody really walks in her room without knocking if we are in there alone.

She says its a combination of all of that, and I believe her but I do think that there has to be something I can do to get more out of her when we are at least at her home.

 

[shottywerd]

Sex with LTR's always something that has to hit off AMAZING from the first time you do it from my experience. She should be begging for it.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Honestly appreciate the fact that you have sex not too much. It can get old real fast.

 

[Young Anikan]

Like Shottywerd said,spin some plates and let her breath. The more options the better.

 

[Hooligan Harry]

**** other women?

Learn to accept that their sex drive is simply not as high as yours.

If you want to though next time she offers sex tell her you are tired. It will piss her off no end and will give you an opportunity to raise the issue with her effectively.

 

[FairShake]

Split hotel rooms.

Oh, and change it UP. I'll tell you, sometimes it gets old for me too and I'm a guy. But one thing I do to keep it interesting for myself is to get a little creative. Take turns being dom and sub. Get some toys. Do a little more oral and pay attention to the G-spot. There are ways to UP both your needs and her wants.

 

[pvf94]

I need to fvck her good and hard and tie her up and sh!t.

We did that once and she raped my wiener for a few days after that. I guess shes into the whole treat her like an object thing.

 

[pingpongz]

Cant believe noone has suggested that maybe you suck at sex? Is she actually having orgasms or faking it?

Girls usually are moaning for the first 5 minutes or so and then when she gets closer she will become quieter and start panting more than moaning. When it hits
she will be quiet and will usually blush red. Really easy to tell.
Oh and if thats not obvious she will start to dry up after it

 

[Metaphysical]

I'm really good in the bedroom but I've had a few frigid girls too, one in particular. Sex with her was just horrible. She doesn't sound frigid though. You guys are having sex twice a week (minus the week when shes on her period). I would say that's pretty decent for someone who don't live together and don't have a lot of privacy.

 

[DonGorgon]

Most women do the most F'ing when they are hoing around with different men cause that is a more natural human state ..

When they settle down with one man they tend to become sexually depressed cause the are supressing their natural urges to F every attractive guy they see...

Also if you show that you want it more tan she does that will turn her off more and more over time... also since se is so easy for women to get they need alittle drama and turbulance to go along with it to make it more of a challenge and exciting... So inject some doubt in her mind.. make her think she needs to keep you sexually satisfied cause plenty other females want you...lol....

But a sad reallity is that most men in LTRs and marriages complain that they get less and less sex over time ... this does not mean that the woman is not horny as they often claim most times it means they are Fing someone else instead...