RickTheToad
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Anyone ever notice that the dues who are/were with incredibly attractive females settle down with females which, generally, are not as attractive? This just dawned on me.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yes. Excuse they realize the dime is fun to show off but doesn't translate well to LTR/marriage/stating a family.Yep. Usually just “girl next door” cute.
Great thread and post I think it's all about what the woman values, her upbringing, and her lifestyleYes. Excuse they realize the dime is fun to show off but doesn't translate well to LTR/marriage/stating a family.
The hottest women are typically extremely shallow and damaged.
The GND totally passes the b0ner test but offers much more than looks.
Makes perfect sense.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The most physically attractive men I know married ordinary women.Anyone ever notice that the dues who are/were with incredibly attractive females settle down with females which, generally, are not as attractive? This just dawned on me.
Yes, for both sexes. Some of the most kind boggling sex I had was with a woman who was about 20 pounds overweight. I’d take her over a model. She was fun, nice, and intelligent.Kind of shows that physical attractiveness in men doesn't really add to your 'SMV'. Other qualities are much more important.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I have a close friend that slept with +80 women (all picked up/no pay-4-fun), some of them stunning in my opinion (showed me photos few years ago). He married 6/10 in looks chick and is happy with her.Anyone ever notice that the dues who are/were with incredibly attractive females settle down with females which, generally, are not as attractive? This just dawned on me.
GuiltyYes, the Trophy Syndrome, stemming from the juvenile notion that beauty equals desirability, plus the insecurity of needing to assert your dominance by having the most desirable woman to prove your manhood. The importance of outward appearances is directly related to a man's maturity.
At some point all the BS just isn't worth it.I have a close friend that slept with +80 women (all picked up/no pay-4-fun), some of them stunning in my opinion (showed me photos few years ago). He married 6/10 in looks chick and is happy with her.