LR: "Too Bad We Didn't Connect At The End"

[Pair A Dice]

Dear Pair a Dice,
Sounds like you Blew (No Pun Intended) a great little Plate...You wasted,money and effort for what!....Lets reverse the situation,how would you have reacted? Full marks though,for an impeccable seduction routine,now swat up on lesson two.

How would I have reacted? Well, I wouldn't be in that position because I don't fvck guys, but if I were her, maybe I'd be a bit put off, but I'd make damn sure to not let it get to that position by being a more-willing partner.

The only reason those words left my mouth were because it turned aggravating, giving her orgasms, but not having any of the pleasure focus going the other way. I don't mind pleasuring, but at the same time, it's a two-way street.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Well, in your defense, a lot of what you are describing or did say is emulated in pornography. Which is what most men watch and use to understand what sex is supposed to be. Which is, unfortunately, very false.

IDK man, some chicks would have responded well to this. I've had some nasty shi.t spoken to me in my day. I've said some things that made me feel uncomfortable but she really liked it...maybe it was just bad timing...or maybe it came off too c0cky. Just learn from it. Clearly you're not an @ss, you knew what you said was over the top, shi.t man live and learn, I'm not sure there's any other way with women.

I've also noted -- if a chick doesn't "give back", then it's going to be a continued shi.t deal. I was once with a chick who said she "doesn't do" *******s, yet asked me to go down on her more than a few times. My mistake at the time was I was too young to contest or use some sort of clever mindset to flip the coin...but looking back a lot of those types of chicks are just spoiled bishes, a lot of them not used to really giving anything back to anyone anyways.

Live and learn man. Maybe give it a week and try and contact her again. Maybe she could understand if you were caught up in the moment -- she might even give you another shot.

 

[Zarky]

I must have missed the part in the original post that talked about the sex "being all about her."

Although I have to say that women who don't bother to shave down there are usually very narcissistic. They think any guy is lucky to have them and that they don't have to try to make themselves presentable.

 

[Jitterbug]

Mate, you need to build up the dirty talk and not just blurt it out of the blue after all night of going on a date, drinking and playing kissy face. Like all things related to women, dial up the analog volume knob.

 

[scrouds]

By the second time I said something, I was just done with it all. I've never made this mistake before and won't again.

Understandable.

 

[vatoloco]

Not sure what you're getting at.

I personally thought it was a little too much too soon with a girl you just met face to face, especially the “Suck my dick or I’m going to jerk it on you. Pick one.” line. It felt to me like over-negging.

But like it's been mentioned, it does work with some girls.

The ones with low self-esteem.

 

[Pair A Dice]

I personally thought it was a little too much too soon with a girl you just met face to face, especially the “Suck my dick or I’m going to jerk it on you. Pick one.” line. It felt to me like over-negging.

But like it's been mentioned, it does work with some girls.

The ones with low self-esteem.

Wasn't trying to over-neg there. Just wanted to let her know I was going to get my rocks off somehow — like she got hers — and whether or not she wanted to be involved in it, it was up to her.

I expected a bad response, mainly because I was done with the situation that night, and got it.

 

[Zunder]

Whatever you do dont apologise now. You have set a frame of sorts and if she contacts you again - all go, if not - too bad and move on to the next.

 

[vatoloco]

Wasn't trying to over-neg there. Just wanted to let her know I was going to get my rocks off somehow — like she got hers — and whether or not she wanted to be involved in it, it was up to her.

Okay, that's fair. But if you want better results: DO, don't SAY. Let me explain:

When I'm having sex with a woman, I almost never verbalize things. I just grab and position her as I want to do her, whether it's missionary, doggy, etc., with limited verbalization, except for a sporadic "come here," instructing her to come closer to the edge of the bed, etc.

Just my $0.02...

 

[Pair A Dice]

Okay, that's fair. But if you want better results: DO, don't SAY. Let me explain:

When I'm having sex with a woman, I almost never verbalize things. I just grab and position her as I want to do her, whether it's missionary, doggy, etc., with limited verbalization, except for a sporadic "come here," instructing her to come closer to the edge of the bed, etc.

Just my $0.02...

I DO, don't worry. Results aren't an issue with me. My patience is when something isn't a two-way street.