"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you go to the bar on weekdays or weekends? I've read that women are more DTF on weekdays versus weekends, but obviously there's much less volume and timing is different. Where I live, the bars are pretty much empty at 10pm on weekdays and get volume at around 6-8pm or so. Weekends are bustling later at night, and there's much more noise and crowds to deal with.


Also, if you did a bit of a guide on bar game, that'd be great. Dealing with friends when you're solo and what not. What the typical interaction looks like and how they go
So I made something of a mini-guide for cold approaching groups here, if that's what you mean: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/cold-approaching-vs-groups.284090/

If you want some more specific, leave some questions or message me and I can try to write something up when I get time.

But to answer your questions above:
  1. I only go to the bars on weekends. Usually this means Thursday and Friday, but sometimes it'll be Friday and Saturday instead. Usually I'll only go one of those days, but since the summer usually equates to dry spells here in Delaware, I'll probably force myself to spend a little more time out. The ONLY time I out to the bars during the week is during the weeklong vacation with my family at the beach, because there's a specific bar that pops off each night of the week, and I don't have to worry about work.
  2. Where have you read that women are more DTF on weekdays? Most women have jobs, and most jobs are M-F. Going out for drinks or spending the night at either person's place would likely interfere with that work schedule, and would be the most common objection you'd find. On weekends, everybody has time to sleep in and recover and from their bad decisions the night before.
  3. I'll usually only to go bars 2-3 hours before close. Why? I don't want to spend my whole night at the bar if the women I want who will be single and more likely to leave with me are going to be there at closing time. I also have a very high tolerance and don't want to spend a bunch of money refilling my drink for several hours while I make small talk - but I also don't want to be sober amongst drunks. I find those 2-3 hours to be the best use of my time if I'm going out to get laid (which I am...if I just wanted to drink with my friends I could do that for free).
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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