Lowering interest level from LTR

[Romantika]

This's the situation,

But when i have not encountered this site, i was a total AFC towards my current LTR.

- I was possessive.
- We meet one another everyday.
- She stay over at my place nearly everyday
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She used to have high interest in me. and of coz, i sense that the intensity is lower these few days but I believe the situation can be savaged.

As such,
Last night, i told her that I will be sleeping early and ask her to go home (her home, not mine) from work directly. She's cool about it.

Today i had not called her at all and she called me giving the "Why didn't you call me" tonality. She throw a slight temper and i suggest that she needs to go prepare for work and let's put down the phone.

Actually i know the advice is to not care about her so much and be a challenge, not encourging her to stay over at my place for the time being,
BUT we are to used to seeing one another everyday, and she turns angry when the routine has been broken.

Is the anger low interest or just plain "princess temper"?

Should i consistently be a challenge until her behavior becomes better?

I'm confused. I just want her interest to be tip top like before, can be done i know it.

Please advise thanks.

 

[Romantika]

I notice that when my girl knows that she's losing power (example, putting down the phone before she do etc). She begins to throw a temper.

Is it true that girls always do that??

I think i need to show her who's the boss in the relationship....

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Your making some changes. She's going to find it shocking at first. She might even get a little scared. Just keep doing what your doing, but be cool about it.
It's all good. You're taking one step at a time. That's fine.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Her interest level shouldn't drop. B!tches need drama in their life and to have different emotions good or bad. Just keep doing what you do. If she likes spending everyday with you and now she cant as often. She will want more of want she cant have.

 

[mrRuckus]

Today i had not called her at all and she called me giving the "Why didn't you call me" tonality. She throw a slight temper and i suggest that she needs to go prepare for work and let's put down the phone.

Actually i know the advice is to not care about her so much and be a challenge, not encourging her to stay over at my place for the time being,
BUT we are to used to seeing one another everyday, and she turns angry when the routine has been broken.

Then don't let it be the routine anymore. Let the new routine become i see you sometimes and sometimes i don't because "i want to develop myself and have new hobbies..." Don't let the default become that you have to ask permission what days you aren't going to see her.

I get pretty annoyed at this when girls come into a relationship with me used to this seeing their boyfriends EVERY FREAKING DAY and are used to him reporting into her like a kid calling his mom... so they think i'm crazy and am a bad boyfriend and whatever else because i manage to get through a day without her amazing female presence guiding me like a beacon of hope.

Get a new hobby and involve yourself in that sometimes. How can she argue against that? "What you don't want me to have hobbies and think you should be the center of my universe?" She'd just look dumb if you are trying to better yourself and she's getting in the way of it.


I had an ex that complained for a very long time that if she didn't contact me she'd never hear from me. Gee, she sure stuck around for well over a year though. And i saw her a ton. Women need something to be angry at and be annoyed at you for. It provides for their roller coaster... fine let her be annoyed because i'm not her little phone b1tch but when i see her show her a good time with a crazy sexcapade at the end as an exclamation point so she has something to remember and pine for when i'm off doing my other manly adventures.

This is a really good question. It always seems like after I get a girl and she comes over several times (spends the night for a week) she loses that interest like in the beginning. It would be good to know a way to restore that.

I've pretty much taken up not trying to contact them at all once things have just started getting under way and it's obvious they are interested in me and want to be around me a lot.

They always end up contacting me asking me to do something. Sure they sit around for a while figuring i'm supposed to ask THEM to do stuff but they finally run out of patience and just contact me.

 

[sav]

i find that in LTR's to keep the interest from both sides there you have to break ROUTINES.... that doesnt mean to play games, if you wanna see her, there's no rule that says you cant... just make sure you are doing something NEW...

involve yourself in your passions a little bit maybe she'll involve herself in what you like to do in return

i find that once you are past the point of sharing little childhood memories, and all the stories it becomes difficult and things sizzle down quite a bit.. what you have to do is make NEW stories with her.. break routines, and explore eachothers boundaries.. good luck!