"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Low social value, girlfriend's interest level..

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TheRenegadesOfFunk

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I'm attending a party with my (recently new) girlfriend in a few days.

The problem is: I haven't really built a good rapport with the people at the party. Infact my social value has been suffering for quite a while (work schedule, school..).
I know of only one person attending, and even then I barely know him.

What kind of mindset should I have going into the party? I wish I can show some social proof to her...
Do you think her interest level will take a significant hit? Definitely gonna try my best to be more social/outgoing though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warrior74

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Go, meet people and have fun. Problem solved. Worry = fail.
 
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FairShake

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If you only know one person nobody seriously thinks that you're going to own the room and be the center of attention. Nobody but you that is and that's where the pressure lies.

My advice is to make eye contact, listen to other people talk, ask them about themselves, and wait to see if their is any conversation. Otherwise sit back with a beer, listen to music, and relax.
 
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Renegades of Funk,

A man who walks into a room KNOWING and "feeling like" he's one of the greatest guys in the WORLD, "never" worries too much about what "other people" think about him.

Rundown a mental checklist of everything that makes you "great", keep that shyt in mind, mentally rehearse it, "feel it", and carry that point of view with you into ANY situation that you enter and you'll be just fine, soldier.

Cast away the notion that YOU have to do anything to impress other people. Instead, when you go to the party, be cool, friendly, and "open" to the idea of giving all those other people there a chance to impress YOU.

VU
 
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