"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Low social value, girlfriend's interest level..

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I'm attending a party with my (recently new) girlfriend in a few days.

The problem is: I haven't really built a good rapport with the people at the party. Infact my social value has been suffering for quite a while (work schedule, school..).
I know of only one person attending, and even then I barely know him.

What kind of mindset should I have going into the party? I wish I can show some social proof to her...
Do you think her interest level will take a significant hit? Definitely gonna try my best to be more social/outgoing though.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Warrior74

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Go, meet people and have fun. Problem solved. Worry = fail.
 

FairShake

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If you only know one person nobody seriously thinks that you're going to own the room and be the center of attention. Nobody but you that is and that's where the pressure lies.

My advice is to make eye contact, listen to other people talk, ask them about themselves, and wait to see if their is any conversation. Otherwise sit back with a beer, listen to music, and relax.
 

Victory Unlimited

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Renegades of Funk,

A man who walks into a room KNOWING and "feeling like" he's one of the greatest guys in the WORLD, "never" worries too much about what "other people" think about him.

Rundown a mental checklist of everything that makes you "great", keep that shyt in mind, mentally rehearse it, "feel it", and carry that point of view with you into ANY situation that you enter and you'll be just fine, soldier.

Cast away the notion that YOU have to do anything to impress other people. Instead, when you go to the party, be cool, friendly, and "open" to the idea of giving all those other people there a chance to impress YOU.

VU
 
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