"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mr. kennedy

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I visited a doctor over a year ago and he advised me to take andriol 3 times a day for 90 days. I never took the advice because I was worried what would happen to me once I stopped taking the drug.

I took cialis for the first time the other day before intercourse and it didn't work. As it mentions in the pamphlet, cialis does not increase sex drive. I'm not sure if my problem was performance anxiety or low sex drive, but I didn't get an erection.

Is there anything out there that can increase my drive? It's frustrating to go through this everytime I meet someone.

Thanks in advance.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I am already in great shape and eat lots of protein. I train 3 times a week at the gym and I swim.
 

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Take the andriol and the cialis. Side affects are mild for andriol. I'm no doctor but if that doesn't work then nothing will.
 

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I don't know anything about the andriol, but I would go see a doc again and maybe a shrink, too. Seriously, it could be something physical or just extreme stress. You might try a different doc to get a second opinion.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's cheaper, easier, and safer to just take maybe 200-500 mg of DHEA a day for some months. Keep an eye on the size of your tits. Stop taking DHEA for a few weeks, then resume at a much lower dosage, if they get bigger than they were in your 20s.

A small amount of DHEA is converted into DHT, which causes sex drive. DHEA converts into all the male sex hormones (androgens), all of which except DHT are then converted into the female sex hormones (estrogens). The two are in balance with one another unless you have some medical condition that prevents proper chemical breakdown and causes imbalance (thus too much estrogen and man boobs).

Of course, if you previously damaged your manhood by taking testosterone, or if DHEA gives no results after a year, you might have to take Clomid 25 mg a day for 25 days on, 5 days off, for several months. Clomid's inexpensive and available without a prescription from India Web sites.

Also, your body needs cholesterol to do all this naturally. If you're below about 5% body fat, eat little fat, and burn it all off, you might need to eat an egg every morning.
 

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OP,

I assume that if your doctor prescribed andriol your testosterone is low. You've received good advice here so far.

If you're already fine and he's trying to boost it, then maybe you should consider other causes.

Couple thing...
How old are you?
Do you take any kind of drugs / supplements to enhance your work out performance?
What kind of women are you trying to get with? Hotties, easy targets, a wife?
Any anxiety weighing heavily on your shoulders?
Hows the mood in general?

You don't have to answer these questions, but perhaps you need to answer them for yourself. There can be psychological influences at work here. Dunno, we don't know you yet.

SH
 

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You might be depressed or suffer from anxiety.

Take your doctor's advice. All side effects from taking testosterone go away once you stop taking it.
 

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D aspartic acid is a great way to naturally increase your test levels. But if you have a problem with test levels being naturally low go to the doctor. Low libido could be caused by stress, extremely low estrogen levels, depression, high body fat, or just naturally low test levels. Go to the doc for a quick check up

Also anytime your test levels increase so does estrogen. YoIu an use an AI for estrogen and corisol levels but inhibit p us needed for prolactin control.
 

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Do you ever stop to think, if you have low sex drive, why does your lack of sex drive bother you? You would need to have a high sex drive to really feel that you are missing something, because you need it on a regular basis. It is somewhat of a catch 22. Or am I the only one seeing it?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Your fat intake is too low. Start increasing your saturated fat intake; butter, coconut oil and some hard aged cheeses and you will wake up with boners galore.

Do you feel depressed or melancholy as well?

If your working out and your on a low fat diet, then its very likely this is the issue.

How old are you?





PIMP
 

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Thanks everyone for their replies.

I am in good shape, I eat well, I train.

I believe my problem is either 1) low sex drive, 2) performance anxiety or 3) both

Why I think low sex drive:

1) The doctor made me do a blood test and he said I had slightly lower testosterone level than average. That's why he prescribed andriole. (Maybe the day I did the bloodtest I had lower than average, I don't think we can jump to conclusions).

2) I jerk off less than my friends. I do it on average 2-3 times a week.


Why I think performance anxiety:

1) I have a hard on every morning. My erection is normal when I'm alone. When it's time to do it with a woman, either I can't get it up or it's soft. I thought cialis would solve this problem but it didn't.



It's not a physical problem, it's mental. I have no doubt. The solution is harder to find.
 

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SecondHalf said:
OP,

I assume that if your doctor prescribed andriol your testosterone is low. You've received good advice here so far.

If you're already fine and he's trying to boost it, then maybe you should consider other causes.

Couple thing...
How old are you?
Do you take any kind of drugs / supplements to enhance your work out performance?
What kind of women are you trying to get with? Hotties, easy targets, a wife?
Any anxiety weighing heavily on your shoulders?
Hows the mood in general?

You don't have to answer these questions, but perhaps you need to answer them for yourself. There can be psychological influences at work here. Dunno, we don't know you yet.

SH
1) Not in couple, casually dating women
2) 30
3) None
4) Hotties. I just want to date and be a player.
5) Yes, I want to perform well in bed
6) I have a positive mood in general. I don't believe I'm moody.
 

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Maybe you're just a sensitive guy who has to have some emotional attachment before having sex. The world would be a better place if everyone was that way. If so, you're never going to feel comfortable trying to play women for fools. Do a 180. Absolutely ignore the easy sleazy pvssy. Makeover yourself and go after only the highest quality women.
 

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mr. kennedy said:
I visited a doctor over a year ago and he advised me to take andriol 3 times a day for 90 days. I never took the advice because I was worried what would happen to me once I stopped taking the drug.

I took cialis for the first time the other day before intercourse and it didn't work. As it mentions in the pamphlet, cialis does not increase sex drive. I'm not sure if my problem was performance anxiety or low sex drive, but I didn't get an erection.

Is there anything out there that can increase my drive? It's frustrating to go through this everytime I meet someone.

Thanks in advance.
Confidence/Money/Anger/Sense of belonging problem.

1) Confidence - sex makes you feel vulnerable, she can judge you 100% when you are naked, can't perform

2) Money - feel as though you don't make enough money, want to earn more, want to get more respect from others

3) Anger - angry you didn't have or get enough sex at a younger age. Taking it out on women now because you want to be a player. Still can't perform because you can't turn back time, anger will always persist.

4) Sense of belonging - you have friends but no real sense of belonging. You feel people may not miss you.

For the record, I hate doctors, give you a pill think everything will be ok. Screw that.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Down Low said:
Maybe you're just a sensitive guy who has to have some emotional attachment before having sex. The world would be a better place if everyone was that way. If so, you're never going to feel comfortable trying to play women for fools. Do a 180. Absolutely ignore the easy sleazy pvssy. Makeover yourself and go after only the highest quality women.
I'm afraid you're right. Maybe I need an emotional attachment. That sucks if that's the case.
 

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Trump said:
Confidence/Money/Anger/Sense of belonging problem.

1) Confidence - sex makes you feel vulnerable, she can judge you 100% when you are naked, can't perform

2) Money - feel as though you don't make enough money, want to earn more, want to get more respect from others

3) Anger - angry you didn't have or get enough sex at a younger age. Taking it out on women now because you want to be a player. Still can't perform because you can't turn back time, anger will always persist.

4) Sense of belonging - you have friends but no real sense of belonging. You feel people may not miss you.

For the record, I hate doctors, give you a pill think everything will be ok. Screw that.
Wow, I feel like you've known me for years. You are especially right with #1 & #3. I would say regret more than anger for #3.

What is the answer though if we have diagnosed the problem (s)?

The more I think about it, the more I believe that my fear of not performing is greater than my desire to have sex. I just can't relax. As long as:

Fear > Desire, I will have a problem.

I'm 30. I was always with serious people. I want to have fun the next 5 years before eventually settling down. My greatest fear is living with the regret that I didn't have enough fun when I was younger.
 

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Phuck that shyt, man, age definition is really crazy in this decade, you can't set boundaries for this age and that age and regrets for things passed. there are 50 yr old guys that can kick my a$$ and 18 yr olds that are piles of mush. I didn't mess with enough chicks in my 20's and 30's either. So what? That was the choice you made back then. You are healthy, you don't have AIDS or cancer, be happy about it, and take life one day at a time with the only goal of having fun.

Don't waste too much time on shyt that depresses you, it ain't worth it. If you need some more time before you can have sex with a chick, so be it. Tell her....with a smile! If she acts stupid...NEXT! The past is a road that you paved and will never walk again, the future is unpaved and one you will walk on.

Onward and forward. And chill.
 

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What was your test level?
 

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I have no idea. I did it at a clinic and the nurse sent the results straight to the doc.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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