Low Interest or Legit Excuse

[wt_firefighter]

Last Thursday I decided I was going to ask a girl in my class to get a drink over the weekend. The prevevious times I had talked to her, the interactions went well she always had a smile on her face and was receptive to my questions, but she has never intitiated any conversations. Any how during class, we had to break up into groups and we were in different groups and sure enough her group finished early and she was gone before I was done. I had psyched myself up to much so I said screw it and looked her up on facebook and messaged her that Thursday afternoon if she wanted to get a drink this weekend.

I didn’t hear from her all weekend until Sunday night and she responded with this

Hey wt_firefighter! This is the right Rachel! I'm sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. My phone messes up my Facebook. Hope ya had a good weekend. I'll see you in class tomorrow

I think I will ask her to lunch this week and if she doesn’t oblige I will chalk it up as a low interest. What do you guys think.

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

She's making excuses. How ironic that she messages as soon as the weekend is over !!!! Think about it. Her timing is perfect !!!! That's no coincidence. Start ignoring her in class. Don't even make eye contact. She did not even make a counter-offer. If she had a legitimate excuse she would have postponed the date to another day. She didn't and therefore her interest level is low. Stop rationalizing for her.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Have you seen how often girls have their face in their iphones? Have you seen how often girls update/use facebook?

Do you really think she didn't get your message until after the weekend?

No problem, dude, but she's just not interested. It happens all the time.

She didn't do anything wrong here. What would you do if a fatty-ugo sent you the same message on Thursday? Probably the same thing she did.

Just move on. Don't get angry. Don't act butt-hurt. Just be aloof, unmoved, don't kiss her ass, act as if it was no big deal.

Don't address her rejection. Pretend it never happened. Hit on other girls in front of her. Be friendly if she reinitiates, but don't pursue unless she puts in some work (which she's not likely to do).

 

[VladPatton]

I agree with the guys above. Same thing happened to me. It's a büllṣhit excuse that girls use. Blame technology. Sure. If Channing Tatum messaged them on Facebook, you think her phone would mess up?

Just ignore her in class and move on.

 

[TheStig]

I agree with the guys above. Same thing happened to me. It's a büllṣhit excuse that girls use. Blame technology. Sure. If Channing Tatum messaged them on Facebook, you think her phone would mess up?

Just ignore her in class and move on.

I second this.

But also, I'm not so sure looking her up on FB and messaging her was the greatest idea. Do you have any idea how many average chodes message girls on FB? You should have said something to her in person after class. Face to face trumps everything.

Edit: after re-reading your OP I saw where you said she was gone before you had a chance to talk to her (missed that part when I originally skimmed it). Still though, the same idea applies. If I were you I would have just bit the bullet and waited until I saw her again in person instead of going to FB.

 

[Megaman XIV]

Tactical dodge. Another castle. Do you think her phone would mess up for Brad Pitt? I think not.

 

[Kbomb]

why are you asking her out on the internet? That sh!t is weak and you should have known better.

 

[buzzin_frog]

The prevevious times I had talked to her, the interactions went well she always had a smile on her face and was receptive to my questions,

she was only being polite to you

but she has never intitiated any conversations.

this tells you she wasn't interested in you....girls that like you will initiate convos because they want to talk to you!!.

sure enough her group finished early and she was gone before I was done.

she wanted to leave the class....why would you think she would wait for you?
is this chick even single?

I had psyched myself up to much so I said screw it and looked her up on facebook and messaged her that Thursday afternoon if she wanted to get a drink this weekend.

what did you do that for? you should ask her out in person!! not over facebook!! that also makes you look creepy for looking her up like that. also very beta for asking her out over facebook!! never ask chicks out online!! ever!!

I didn’t hear from her all weekend until Sunday night and she responded with this
Hey wt_firefighter! This is the right Rachel! I'm sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. My phone messes up my Facebook. Hope ya had a good weekend. I'll see you in class tomorrow

her phone messes up facebook? :crackup: this is a bvllsh!t excuse!! yeah, her phone just happened to work on facebook just on Sunday night but not the other days? :crackup: she's lying to you. you know that her facebook was perfectly fine for all those updates she made over the weekend!! she totally ignored your drink offer!! she avoided you until the last possible minute on a sunday night. she is not interested in you!!

chick make themselves available to guys they like.....they avoid/ignore the guys they don't like!!

I think I will ask her to lunch this week and if she doesn’t oblige I will chalk it up as a low interest. What do you guys think.

dude, do you still think this chick has interest in you? C'mon man....get with it!!

She doesn't inititate convos with you....she ignored you until sunday night....then she lied to you giving you a lame exuse!!

you should chalk it up now!! don't ask her to lunch!!

I'm just trying to help you from being rejected by her!!

never do this again!!

always ask chicks out in person!!

always!!

 

[Skyline]

The prevevious times I had talked to her, the interactions went well she always had a smile on her face and was receptive to my questions,
but she has never intitiated any conversations. Any how during class, we had to break up into groups and we were in different groups and sure enough her group finished early and she was gone before I was done.

I didn’t hear from her all weekend until Sunday night and she responded with this

Hey wt_firefighter! This is the right Rachel! I'm sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. My phone messes up my Facebook. Hope ya had a good weekend. I'll see you in class tomorrow .

Most likely uninterested, don't waste your time. Especially when she makes up excuses, rushes out of class, and doesn't really show any interest to you.
If you still think she still is for whatever reason, then try and make a little small talk. But other than that, there's no reason why you shouldn't just go no contact.

 

[wt_firefighter]

I know I royaly fudged up asking her out via facebook but live and learn I suppose.
I don't think I am going to go no contact with her because she always sits right in front of me during class. So if I go nc with her I feel she will get the feeling that I am bitter about the whole situation, in which i'm not. I will still make small talk with her.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

hahahaha

Seriously? It is an excuse, plain and simple. This excuse is a variation of the "I lost my cell phone" excuse. Ignore her and move on.

Many years ago, when people still used MSN Messenger, I got the "my MSN is broken" excuse. Turns out she was a lesbian. Seriously. I found out through a friend.

 

[Zarky]

I don't think I am going to go no contact with her because she always sits right in front of me during class. So if I go nc with her I feel she will get the feeling that I am bitter about the whole situation, in which i'm not. I will still make small talk with her.

You're right, you can't give her the silent treatment like a hurt boy. Just turn on the charm and be a super-cool awesome outgoing guy around her. Make her sad that she ever blew you off, but NEVER ask her out again. Show her the funny, fun guy she's missing out on and she'll come around and ask you out.

Be wary though, once you start acting cool and alpha, she'll drop hints that will make you think she's interested enough that you'll want to ask her out again. Don't fall for that! NEVER ask her out again. Only agree to go out with her if she explicitly suggests it.