Low interest level???

[hck332]

I already kiss closed this girl (friend of a friend), and we've gone out yesterday.
She acted very strange, for example she wanted to hold hands with me, but didn't really want to cuddle or kiss (ok, i kissed her 2 or 3 times, but she wasnt really excited about that) and the whole evening she was rather cold...

We had really interesting conversation with lots of humour, but with very little touching etc...

she kissed me for goodbye...


Is it just low IL?
Or maybe it's a normal thing because she's a virgin?

 

[Kings_royalty]

She might have low IL, or she may be shy and or nervous. Whatever the case may be, you need to sit back and relax, don't try to cuddle or anything else, just concentrate on amping up her IL, the rest will fall into place.

 

[Hitman10000]

It could be low interest. Why don't you test her interest, stop emailing/calling her... *after* your last positive interaction.

If she calls/emails you 7 or more whole days after that last interaction = Low interest. = Dump her. If she starts calling and emailing you asking "where you are or how are you" after 15 days since the last interaction, her ego is cracking and requires your attention/assurance - not with the pure interest in being romantic with you. Experienced guys will know this as... "the One Month of no contact and she suddenly wants to be around you." Don't fall for it.

If she calls/emails you about 3-5 days after the last interaction = Moderate interest. = Give her a chance.

If she calls/emails you less than 3 days after last interaction = High interest

Relationships are supposed to be mutually satisfying two way street rides, it should never be the guy doing all the work. Girls want to have sex just like us, and if they withhold physical intimacy, the least they can do is keep in communication with us. Besides, you wouldn't want to date a woman that called/emailed you once every 1-2 weeks "just to hang out" after you spent an entire month of asking her out, calling her, emailing her, paying for dates, giving her rides, etc etc.

When I say when she calls/emails you.. It has to be ABOUT YOU or HER with YOU... Not about her friends or other extra events happening outside, or when to hang out next.

 

[flexion_]

No way to really tell - at your age it could be just simple posturing. I agree with others.. relax and focus on having fun.

If she tends to be around when you are having fun then chances are she likes you. If its difficult to get to see her then she doesn't.

 

[donArjun]

and what is your age ?

 

[hck332]

im 20, so is she. didnt call her yet... sent her a sms 7 days after date and she responded, just some fluff/jokes... but no contact from her...

I think I'll set up another date. What do you think? I think she's kinda playing hard-to get...

 

[Juan_Man]

Man, I have two theories:

1. Something else is on her mind.

2. Someone else is on her mind.

Anytime there is a difference in the way your girl acts now from before, it means that her interest level has dropped. Keep your eyes open for clues and find out what is going on without actually asking her. In the meantime, give her some more space and focus on other things. Keep yourself busy with school, work, sports, etc. Talk to other girls.

 

[penkitten]

maybe there were not any sparks for her, because when someone has sparks for you, they tend to show you.