Low interest it's a IOI, but You're not the chosen one

[jhonny9546]

Low interest/loss of interest/interest in someone else

This is 99% of it.
From the time I was 15 until about 22, I had this girl who kept coming back to me every time things went wrong with her bf.


You're in her mind, but you're not the first choice. One thing I want to point out that's different from love bombing is that some women will show high interest, be clingy, very feminine, but once they reach their desired goal, they reveal their true nature.
Confirmed by pook


This is manipulation. Everything they do is to create an image of themselves that’s socially acceptable, to the social circle, family, and especially to you. For example, when she starts changing her voice pitch or using a specific tone with you, it's not true submission, it’s acting, just to create the appearance of submission.


One thing men struggle with is figuring out whether a woman is being genuine or manipulative.
You may never know, or rather, you will know, but only once she’s achieved her goals.


How many times have you heard:
“Oh wow, you're so lucky! You finally found a really good woman, didn’t you?”
When I hear that, I always think: How lucky is she to have found a good man? Because the reverse is much harder to find.


And sure, they’ll stay together, especially if He’s wealthy. She’ll become a “traditional wife,” working part-time because she “needs to care for the family now,” while the man struggles with the full weight of his career, family life.


Reading Vilar’s work really opens your eyes on this subject.
You start to project those ideas onto real-world relationships in your circle.
Using Vilar’s lens, I can instantly see three or more LTR's, at different stages, with different goals, and they all align with what Vilar describes. It’s like she was spot-on. But of course we don't live with others, and can only take what we see with care.

The most interesting thing is that no matter if a man is unpleasant, she will always maintain this high interest, especially if this interest was built in her young age. (What Vilar also expresses with "I can not live without you" precisely because freedom creates an incurable disease, while people always look for someone to be "slaves and happy". Especially men)

 

[BaronOfHair]

The most interesting thing is that no matter if a man is unpleasant....

Unpleasant in the eyes of a HETEROSEXUAL MAN. A woman's perception of what makes a guy desirable are almost always very different. You're a rabbit, pondering what revs up a lioness's appetite

 

[Gamisch]

Well, tbh you should expect love bombing. It's still way way better than low interest.

Will her IL decline overtime? Ofcourse! But that transition is the reason why so many men opt out of the game completely. Because they can't take female nature for what it really is.

And yes, IF you KNOW you are a good man you will be love bombed very often. The art of the game is to deal with the transition like a pro. iow: don't think you can EVER give in to her charms and mive (on) when her true colors show. The latter is where most men ( including meself ) go wrong: you THINK during the love bombing stage that you found " the one" and try ti TRAP her by impregnating her and getting a mortgage together. Basically cutting off your own ballz .