Low interest for about one week , what to do

[suspected_file_swap]

So Ive been dating this girl for 8 months now. Things have been going well,very well actually. She traditional and Im very much the leader in this traditional relationship and this is how she likes it.

Anyways last Sunday , she was over, we had sex then about 10 minutes after she said she had to go , which was unusual, it was very sudden. I asked her if she was tired, she said no not really and gave me kind of a weird smile.

We were both really busy during the week, so we did not get together which is not abnormal. I called her on Tuesday, she called me on Thurday we talked blah blah blah

We usually spend at least 2 out of the three weekend days together. Friday night we could not because she was stuck at work until 11 which was true.

I expect because we did not get together on Friday that we would on Saturday, it is usually assumed that this is what we do.

Saturday she calls me and says she has some family stuff to do Saturday night , I said ok and said if you are not out of there too late give me a call and we will see what time it is and decide if we want to get together. She never called , texted etc.............

Then today , Sunday I get a call from her around 5...........we chat , exchange chit chat etc.............I ask her if she wants to come over tonight which is very common, she said no that she is too tired and it's really cold out, she counters by saying if I want to go over and see her I could. I said no, I usually do cause she lives with her parents it's no fun being there when they are at home.

I know she had a crazy week, she does a physical job and she gets exhausted from it. But we have not seen each other for a week........I thought she would have made more effort to get together tonight. When she told me no and I turned down her counter, I kept her on the phone for about 30 seconds then told her I had to go. She asked me if " I was ok " I repeated her question and said yeah of course, why wouldnt I be ?

Am I making too much of this ? What if anything should I do next ?

 

[DropZone3]

It's too early to make anything out of it. Just stay cool and don't worry about it.
This coming week treat yourself to something fun that you always wanted to do.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear File Swap,
As DZ says,just relax have a bit of a break,I would relish the opportunity to give some plates a bit of a flick to get them spinning again...She has you sweating...Why?...Oneitus!...Don't go chasing after her with flowers and constant texts,just act as if everything is the same and go chat up some other Birds.....If your Dancing is Rusty,then get some lessons,thats where the Birds are...You will come back after a night of Dancing and mild flirtation feeling really good about yourself...Why don't you tell us how old you are?

 

[st_99]

Well, if your gut is telling you something is wrong, then it most likely is.

Having said that you need to start planning for turbulence ahead.

 

[suspected_file_swap]

Dear File Swap,
As DZ says,just relax have a bit of a break,I would relish the opportunity to give some plates a bit of a flick to get them spinning again...She has you sweating...Why?...Oneitus!...Don't go chasing after her with flowers and constant texts,just act as if everything is the same and go chat up some other Birds.....If your Dancing is Rusty,then get some lessons,thats where the Birds are...You will come back after a night of Dancing and mild flirtation feeling really good about yourself...Why don't you tell us how old you are?

Thx guys..........Im 34.

I am relaxed, just wanted some feedback. Im not the type to send flowers or texts etc..............This not seeing her on the weekend stuff has happened before, but it's been a while. There has been times where she has asked me to do stuff and I turend her down for whatever reason..............This is the first time she has done this to me, I guess I was a little surprised cause we didnt get together last night ..............

 

[Pair A Dice]

Just lay back and let her contact YOU about when she wants to hang out. There are only so many times she can say "No" to you before you do something about it. If she's still interested, she will contact.

 

[Zarky]

Start dating other women ASAP, if you're not already.

 

[Demodulate]

Well, if your gut is telling you something is wrong, then it most likely is.

Having said that you need to start planning for turbulence ahead.

This..

my gut started acting up and a week later I was done..

I have since started reading up on human behavior/body language and a lot of what are gut is telling us is stuff we pick up on a subconscious level.

actions speak louder than words..

 

[squirrels]

When was the last time you took her OUT somewhere?

Or has it just been a "come over, have sex" kind of relationship lately?

After 8 months, sex with the same person gets boring unless there's something else going on besides the sex.

Your "relationship" sounds a little too routine, if that makes sense. Mix it up a little...make an effort to be interesting.

 

[Noodles]

So Ive been dating this girl for 8 months now. Things have been going well,very well actually. She traditional and Im very much the leader in this traditional relationship and this is how she likes it.

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I ask her if she wants to come over tonight which is very common

When was the last time you took her OUT somewhere

Do you see how that works? Apparently you're a leader. She probably uses phrases like 'You make me feel safe' with you. And yet all you seem to do is have her over your house - it's very 'common'.

Show your relationship some leadership and start taking her out, as squirrels suggests. And even if you're not out with her, why aren't you out with your friends having fun? It seems you're just settling for early retirement.

And what happens if things go wrong? You going to be able to pick up with the friends you haven't seen properly for the last 8 months?