str8up wrote:
"...my theory is that it is MUCH MORE IMPORTANT to avoid doing things that DESTROY attraction, than it is to do things that CREATE attraction."
I had never thought of that. But, intuitively, it sounds so RIGHT. (At least now that I know a few things.)
Excellent point, man.
Yep, nothing kills attraction, comfort, and interest like a "f*ck-up." It's almost like a "no tolerance" thing. One screwup, & you can be crossed right off her list.
Now that I think of it, I seem to remember a thread a while back about "Doing nothing" or "saying nothing." Maybe we're all just trying too hard too much of the time.
I'm gonna hang back and see what happens. But I'm still going to be "escalating." (I'm talking about the verbal end of "trying." Less talk with them all. For a few weeks. We'll see.)
"...my theory is that it is MUCH MORE IMPORTANT to avoid doing things that DESTROY attraction, than it is to do things that CREATE attraction."
I had never thought of that. But, intuitively, it sounds so RIGHT. (At least now that I know a few things.)
Excellent point, man.
Yep, nothing kills attraction, comfort, and interest like a "f*ck-up." It's almost like a "no tolerance" thing. One screwup, & you can be crossed right off her list.
Now that I think of it, I seem to remember a thread a while back about "Doing nothing" or "saying nothing." Maybe we're all just trying too hard too much of the time.
I'm gonna hang back and see what happens. But I'm still going to be "escalating." (I'm talking about the verbal end of "trying." Less talk with them all. For a few weeks. We'll see.)