"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Low BF, Still no abs

NewDude001

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Alright, how exactly do you get a sixpack that looks really good without you flexing your stomach?

I don't weightlift but I run a LOT. I'm at 8% bf and only have "perfect" ab muscles in the morning when there's no food in my belly and when I flex.

Maybe dropping body fat isn't enough, weight training?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ethnomethodologist

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Short twitch and long twitch muscles. The guys who are permanently ripped and have blood flowing to every part of their body just to prevent decay are the idols of your question.

Of course their is TOO much, 8% is excellent bf level, don't try to go below, fat IS healthy for you(hehe brown cells).

Just look at some girls, 2% body fat, they are IN10SE, but they don't look MUSCULAR. MUSCULAR is sexy only when it's on a man, want to know what a female bodybuilder looks like? Heh, you probably already know.

Well to get your six pack, you have to build muscle. There is no way your going to have one without it.

"they say a six pack never goes away, I say it's like a six pack of beer hidden years ago that you find by mistake on easter morning"
 

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Everyone has abs, its just a matter of how much body fat you have that determines wheather your abs show or not.

So basically the steps to get abs is to have a low body fat %. But just like any other muscle you have to work it out to get it bigger and stronger. So basically thisis where all the ab excerises come in. They will help your abs get stronger and bigger, but they won't determine wheather it shows or not. That's determined by your bf%.

So no situps aren't the answer to get them to show. Cardio is... Running, Biking, Trendmill. 45 Min of intense cardio 2 to 3 times a week and the right diet and you'll have your abs apperaing in no time. Then you should do the right excerises to get it stronger and bigger.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NewDude001

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Thing is, my abs do show, even when I'm not flexing and it's not early in the morning before I eat anything. They just don't show the way I'd like them to.

I guess I see two ways out, drop bf levels even more (1. not sure I could 2. not very healthy) or put on more muscle so there's more muscle to come through.

Thanks for the advice
 

Chillisauce

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heres another ab question, i hear that the six pack is one muscle pretty much, but what about the side abs. Basically my question is, should i stick to crunches or is there a real reason to do those other side excercises?
 
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