"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i'm pretty cute (not a stud, but i'm more than ok), so i often have girls approaching me. the fact is, usually the girls approaching guys are not the beautiful ones, but are the ones between a 5 and a 6,5 in the hb scale...
my problem is that i always find something beautiful in each one of them... for example, one may be a 5 regarding the face, but has huge beautiful tits, so i want to bang her. another one may have beautiful legs. another one may be blonde with green eyes, even though she's ugly. another one may be popular for being the sluttiest girl in school, even though she's less than decent regarding looks. other 2 girls may be not that beautiful, but offering me a threesome. another one may be ugly, but wants to sùck me off. another one may be less than a 5, but asks me to stick it up her 4sshole, and so on... the only thing that is a total turn-off is if a girl is stupid (i don't mean mental, but not up to a 90 IQ)

so i got this reputation of being a male-wh0re (not a pimp, just somebody that never denies a offer). how did i notice that this affects my game?

well, when i approach a girl in a different city, she could even be a hb9 but she will love staying with me and she will often be the one who asks to fùck.

when i get to know a girl in my city, she usually is really open at first, asking for my number and stuff... then, after a week or so (likely, when someone starts to tell her the truth about me), she becomes more and more distant and our relationship (social relationship i mean) starts to fade away

how can i solve these 2 problems:

1. not wanting to fùck any girl i meet
2. dropping that reputation
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just **** every girl that comes to you if thats what you want, why deny your impulses.

Man it will come natural, the more your meeting girls the more you will be able to build a seductive web, i say just keep at it.
 

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Originally posted by S0LID
Just **** every girl that comes to you if thats what you want, why deny your impulses.

Man it will come natural, the more your meeting girls the more you will be able to build a seductive web, i say just keep at it.
i know, but i don't think you would like to settle with 5s and 6s... i'd like to be able to bang 9s, without going to some place where nobody knows me...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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104 reads and just an answer? will i have to bump this forever?
 

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Simply stop making excuses for the the things you dont want to do and don't do them-problem one.

As for problem two don't tell people what you do. And secondly I have a feeling that you really dont want to get rid of that reputation, but that is just me!
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite


As for problem two don't tell people what you do. And secondly I have a feeling that you really dont want to get rid of that reputation, but that is just me!

i don't tell people that i do, it's usually the girl that gossips around about us making out. why wouldn't i want to get rid of that reputation? i already explained that it prevents me from djing hot babes... i mean, some of the girls i've made out with are pretty ugly, even though they can have nice tits or whatever...
 

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how can i solve these 2 problems:

1. not wanting to fùck any girl i meet
2. dropping that reputation
#1) That's your self control. If you want to quit having so much sex, that is your own personal choice and nobody else should have an influence on that decision.

#2) You don't drop your reputation. You work with it. If a girl brings up stuff she heard about you, just turn it into something ****y & funny directed toward her.

Her: I heard you slept with every girl at school
You: Why do you ask? Does that make you jealous? ;)

If you quit letting the rumors and gossip get to you and work with it, you'll be able to conquer despite having a lousy reputation. I went through something similar. The fact that some of the rumors (not all) were true made women actually more attracted to me.

This is invisible social proof, and it works well if you use it correctly.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Desdinova

#2) You don't drop your reputation. You work with it. If a girl brings up stuff she heard about you, just turn it into something ****y & funny directed toward her.

Her: I heard you slept with every girl at school
You: Why do you ask? Does that make you jealous? ;)


maybe i wasn't too clear: the problem is not about sleeping with every girl (that would be a pretty good rep), it's about accepting somehow ugly girls' avances...
 
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