Hey guys, I've been a lurker here for many months but now I really need your advice
I'll try keep this as short and simple as possible
•I met a girl called Lucy 2 years ago and overtime we became really good and close friends
•6 months later she began dating a mutual friend of ours called Dave
•About a year ago I split up with my girlfriend (she emigrated)
•3 months ago Lucy told me she and Dave were having various relationship problems and they had basically ceased being intimate with each other
• A week later I hooked up with a random girl in front of Lucy, afterwards she wouldn't speak to me or even tell me why
•2 months ago after my birthday night out Lucy climbed into my bed with me and tried to initiate sex, I put a stop to it and told her to leave
•Next day she cried and apologised about it, I told her I wouldn't say anything and blamed it on the alcohol and the fact her and Dave were having problems
•A week later she told me she didn't love Dave anymore and had over the last 4 months had fallen for me
•It was after this I began to develop strong feelings towards her
•We've met up a lot of times since, discussed the situation and the consequences, agreed that nothing sexual between us could happen until she split with Dave and then told him and all our mutual friends about how we felt about each other
•3 days ago she broke up with Dave, he came crying to me and I supported him the best I could knowing what I did. I felt like a complete pr#ck during this and cowardly didn't tell him the truth as I thought It would not of helped his situation
•Me and Lucy have barely spoke since and today I found out that on the night she broke up with Dave, she ended up staying over at his and they had one last night of sex together
Now I don't know what to do. I haven't confronted Lucy about it yet but I feel hurt and humiliated and now I'm not sure what to do about it. Lucy and Dave are broken up, but she can't respect me that much if she did that. Obviously she still must have feelings toward him too. Whatever little of trust I had for her has now gone. Am I in my right to feel aggrieved about this?
So now I'm left in a situation where I feel that I have badly betrayed a friend and I feel like a complete piece of sh#t because of it and at the same have badly fallen for a amazing girl whom I feel has just stabbed me in the heart and I'm no longer sure if there is a future between us
I'll try keep this as short and simple as possible
•I met a girl called Lucy 2 years ago and overtime we became really good and close friends
•6 months later she began dating a mutual friend of ours called Dave
•About a year ago I split up with my girlfriend (she emigrated)
•3 months ago Lucy told me she and Dave were having various relationship problems and they had basically ceased being intimate with each other
• A week later I hooked up with a random girl in front of Lucy, afterwards she wouldn't speak to me or even tell me why
•2 months ago after my birthday night out Lucy climbed into my bed with me and tried to initiate sex, I put a stop to it and told her to leave
•Next day she cried and apologised about it, I told her I wouldn't say anything and blamed it on the alcohol and the fact her and Dave were having problems
•A week later she told me she didn't love Dave anymore and had over the last 4 months had fallen for me
•It was after this I began to develop strong feelings towards her
•We've met up a lot of times since, discussed the situation and the consequences, agreed that nothing sexual between us could happen until she split with Dave and then told him and all our mutual friends about how we felt about each other
•3 days ago she broke up with Dave, he came crying to me and I supported him the best I could knowing what I did. I felt like a complete pr#ck during this and cowardly didn't tell him the truth as I thought It would not of helped his situation
•Me and Lucy have barely spoke since and today I found out that on the night she broke up with Dave, she ended up staying over at his and they had one last night of sex together
Now I don't know what to do. I haven't confronted Lucy about it yet but I feel hurt and humiliated and now I'm not sure what to do about it. Lucy and Dave are broken up, but she can't respect me that much if she did that. Obviously she still must have feelings toward him too. Whatever little of trust I had for her has now gone. Am I in my right to feel aggrieved about this?
So now I'm left in a situation where I feel that I have badly betrayed a friend and I feel like a complete piece of sh#t because of it and at the same have badly fallen for a amazing girl whom I feel has just stabbed me in the heart and I'm no longer sure if there is a future between us
I'd literally rather be dead than go back to that sh!t.