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[green69]

I used to come here all the time but I got out of the habit but recently I've been lurking a little bit. Last night I read 18 pages of The Master Disaster and his troubles with different girls. Yea I'm a drama wh0re I know...but I think deep down a lot of guys are

Anyways, after reading the responses and basically everyone telling him to man up, ask the girl out, make it happen etc. I realized that I had a very similar mindset to The Master Disaster. I really respect him and think he's a good guy, but like him I need to just shut the fvck up and stop over-analyzing, tip-toeing, and guessing at interest and instead be more bold, confident, and aggressive.

With that in mind today I was in class and I didn't get there early so I couldn't sit next to the girl I sat next to last week. Last time I sat next to her we talked for 5-10 mins before class, nothing special just pleasant conversation. But since I was sitting somewhere else the whole "do I say hi to her or not after class?" dynamic was running through my mind. I thought "Well I'll just pretend I don't see her and then maybe next class I'll sit beside her and try to get something going and ask for her number maybe."

But then I thought about that thread I had read last night and I was like "fvck I'm not gonna play the 'I'll do it next time game' like I usually do..." and after class I went right up to her and confidently said "How's it goin Ashley?" and talked to her for 5 minutes as we were walking out of class. Then as we were parting ways I said we should study sometime, and she agreed so I asked for her number and then she also asked for mine also. I liked she asked for mine too that showed me she was also interested in studying and what not and wasn't giving out her digits out of courtesy or politeness.

I actually wouldn't mind having someone to study with as the material can be a little tricky, but at the same time I got a potential opportunity. If nothing happens then no big deal hopefully I can get some studying done with her instead of sitting on my ass like usual.

I'm proud of myself for actually manning up and confidently saying we should study sometime and getting her number, instead of being like "hey I thought maybe...uh, we could study sometime?" and bein all hesitant and afraid like I am sometimes. It's not a big deal asking for a number under the pretense of studying, but I am happy I at least had the balls to approach her again and didn't fall under the trap of "I'll wait till next time..." which I'm sure a lot of us have done in the past.

Even if nothing happens I've learned a lot from reading that long thread and I feel more confident as a result, and I hope it'll help me be more successful in the future.

 

[slaog]

Thats a good example of the 'just do it' mindset.

 

[Igetit!]

I used to come here all the time but I got out of the habit but recently I've been lurking a little bit. Last night I read 18 pages of The Master Disaster and his troubles with different girls.

Yeah,Master Disaster's "Well,I fvcked up" thread was a doozy. I was one of the first few members who replied to that thread when it first started...but I had NO IDEA it was going to blow up so big. I kept telling the dude from my very first post until the last one that he was in the friendzone,and to move on,but he wouldn't listen. Some people just have to learn the hard way....just like I did.

Anyways, after reading the responses and basically everyone telling him to man up, ask the girl out, make it happen etc. I realized that I had a very similar mindset to The Master Disaster. I really respect him and think he's a good guy,

Yeah,Disaster is cool. He's also stubborn,hard-headed,nieve,in denial,immatu.......well,you get the point. But still cool none-the-less.

With that in mind today I was in class and I didn't get there early so I couldn't sit next to the girl I sat next to last week. Last time I sat next to her we talked for 5-10 mins before class, nothing special just pleasant conversation. But since I was sitting somewhere else the whole "do I say hi to her or not after class?" dynamic was running through my mind. I thought "Well I'll just pretend I don't see her and then maybe next class I'll sit beside her and try to get something going and ask for her number maybe."

But then I thought about that thread I had read last night and I was like "fvck I'm not gonna play the 'I'll do it next time game' like I usually do..."

Hey,I like this man. It's good to see that that whole 18 page nightmare wasn't for nought. I'm not going to lie though. That thread was like a rollercoaster at times. So many twist and turns,me saying move on,other members telling him to continue to pursue her. It was crazy...and I liked it!
Even though to me,it was a lost cause from the get-go,I do wish he had be successful in dating her. Part of me was hoping he'd prove me wrong about there being no way out of the friendzone,but in my heart,I knew it was over from day one.

I'm proud of myself for actually manning up and confidently saying we should study sometime and getting her number, instead of being like "hey I thought maybe...uh, we could study sometime?" and bein all hesitant and afraid like I am sometimes. It's not a big deal asking for a number under the pretense of studying, but I am happy I at least had the balls to approach her again and didn't fall under the trap of "I'll wait till next time..." which I'm sure a lot of us have done in the past.

Agreed. I hear ya on this one.

Even if nothing happens I've learned a lot from reading that long thread and I feel more confident as a result, and I hope it'll help me be more successful in the future.

Good to hear man. There was a lot of good information given in that thread. If anything,it should be prototype of what not to do concerning women. Disaster could have saved himself a LOT of time if he had just "manned up" as you say and simply ask her out.
But anyway,at last report,he seems to be doing ok,so I guess everything worked out for the best.

Welcome back to the forum man.