"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Love Shogun's Nofapvember

Do you think Love Shogun can make it the entire month of November?

  • Hell naw! That dude would f*ck a box of doughnuts and call it an orgy.

    Votes: 3 33.3%
  • Maybe. He's got some pretty good self control in other areas of his life.

    Votes: 2 22.2%
  • Yes, because I believe in Love Shogun.

    Votes: 1 11.1%
  • I can give him a hand.

    Votes: 3 33.3%

  • Total voters
    9

loveshogun

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I think 4chan did something like this a while back.

I'm going to abstain from masturbating for a month.

Every time I break the rule, I will write it down here and you guys can go to town on me.

I'm going to do this just to see if I can.

Sex is still allowed. I may even feel the urge to write a report for you guys.

Wish me luck. Or you know, tell me to stop whining and just get on with it.

Day one... taking all bets!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJ_Hero said:
I was about to click "I can give him a hand", then I thought "wait a minute.." :p

:crackup::crackup::crackup:
 

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Day the Second

Day two:

Day one has come and gone successfully. No, I did not order a hooker named "Day one."

I'm feeling a bit on edge, but I think mostly because I'm coming down with a cold. It was easy not to whack off yesterday because I worked from 9-5, went to the gym from 5-6:30, and then spend the rest of the night in dance classes until 9.

Had a drink with a girl from my ballet class after. Never talked to her before - mostly cause I put her around a 7 body/7 face... not bad, but not great. To her credit, she was a good conversationalist - this is key for me, because I've dated a lot of 8+ airheads, and it gets old. I told her about my no fap challenge for November, and I got her number. Mayhaps you guys can theorize on whether one had anything to do with the other.

Anyway, I'm taking off from work today, and I'm f*ckin' tired, so this is all I have for now. I'll throw in an update or so later.
 

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man, its been a few days for me and all i want to do is smash something. it could p*ssy or someones face it doesnt matter.


ughh
 

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Day the Third

Day 3:

This is getting extremely difficult. Had trouble sleeping last night. I also have a cold. Very on edge. It's rainy, and I don't want to be at work.

I just looked at what I wrote above, and found it to be extremely whiny. Kind of disliking myself right now.

Every time I have time to wring the rag, I have to come up with activities. Lately it's been counterstrike, or going to a pub. But I haven't been playing well because I've been jittery. The pub works better, but my friends aren't always available to go with me, and Wednesday nights aren't exactly hoppin'.

I should be able to get something done this weekend, as I'm traveling and there are some people excited to see me. I just need to last that long.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I actually started abstaining as well...I think I'm on day 12 now. It's actually not been too bad! The trick is to just stay busy and focus using your energies on other stuff outside your head.
 

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Great initiative man, no matter what happens it is a win/win situation. You get to learn so much about yourself, your drive and how you look at the world from stopping masturbating, even if you dont make it you got the experience and can tune the amount you spank it for what fits you best. After five days Ill get so damn horny it messes me up badly but three days keeps me in the zone.

If you are feeling up for it then stop watching porn as well.

Good luck with your experiment.
 

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Day the Fourth

Day 4 (summary of Day 3):

Day three ended up not being as tough as day two. My generally busy schedule (work 9-5, gym 5 to 6:30, dance class 7 to 9) kept me from being too bored.

Also, I get to practice my game on my students. Being in the position of power makes it a little too easy, but nonetheless, cracking jokes and being a jackass comes naturally to me, so I just can't hold it back.

Although, being a male dancer, I can't say that it has been an advantage for any of my previous LTRs (there aren't many of those). So, remember that learning how to dance gets your foot in the door and your c*ck in the p*ssy, but it won't make you really click with anyone.

As for not masturbating, I guess I'm proving what everyone already knew - staying busy is the key. Although, in my case, I do have a predisposition to be overly horny, which is based in an actual hormonal imbalance.

Anyways, this weekend should be good. Many ops for release because I'm traveling to see friends. Girls are much more apt to act when they know you're only in town for a day or so.

Will let you guys know how it goes.


**EDIT**
I'm noticing that my writing is degrading a bit. My sentences aren't quite as well constructed as they were last week, and overall I've been a lot more terse. Just an observation from reading through my posts from the last few days.
 
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Day whatever

This is getting ri-god-damn-diculous.

I think I might break. Seven days without release? Christ. Support!

Weekend ended with lots of numbers, but no action (I failed, boys!). May need to call in some favors from some backups.

May I have the strength not to do that.

I very rarely need moral support. Someone chime in.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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loveshogun said:
This is getting ri-god-damn-diculous.

I think I might break. Seven days without release? Christ. Support!

Weekend ended with lots of numbers, but no action (I failed, boys!). May need to call in some favors from some backups.

May I have the strength not to do that.

I very rarely need moral support. Someone chime in.
sorry bro
i wish i could
i gave in last night.
my sexy female co worker was looking so hot damn yesterday.
 

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I failed. F*ck.

I made it about 2 and a half weeks though. That counts for something, right?
 

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I failed. F*ck.

I made it about 2 and a half weeks though. That counts for something, right?
Did you notice any differences or benefits during those 2 and a half weeks
 

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I actually was a lot more antsy, irritable, aggressive (aimlessly) and had trouble concentrating, and had insomnia.

Also, I fell into a mild depression (no sh*t, it became harder to exercise, socialize, and keep up with the things that I love).

But, this is one time I may admit that I am an exception, because I do display certain hormonal imbalances that have been diagnosed by my doctors.

Anyways, I fapped yesterday, and I woke up feeling better than I have in weeks.

I need new plates. All of mine went places a month ago (which is why I decided it'd be a good time to start the challenge in the first place).
 
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