lOVE PROBLEM IN SOS SITUATION

[erictks]

I am new here to all my fellow brothers. I am in a very complicated situation , see any kind hearted brother can give me some advise .
1) i love a girl that already have a boy friend .
2) she and her boy friend only meet up once in a month and never have communication in between
3) she hang out very often with me like almost everyweek
4) when i date her out if she not free she will usually provide a good reason like busy with work. but found out is really true
5) when we go out as if we can chit chat till late night
6) she reject me once , but it was long ago that time i am not really close with her
7) i keep sweet talk with her through sms
8) i been asking her be my girlfriend for twice since then but no answer been given
9) i donno what is my situation hopefully brothers here can help up and give me so advise ...

 

[jophil28]

8) i been asking her be my girlfriend for twice since then but no answer been given

She just gave you your answer via her silence.

Do you know where the big ole FriendZone is in your country ?
If not, you are standing right in it.

 

[DonJuanit0]

Friendzoned! :/
Next her though it may be difficult...

 

[tafakna]

Erictks,

I think your situation is absolutely manageable. She's already getting a lot more emotional support from you than from her boyfriend.

She knows how you're feeling because you've asked her to be your gf. So if you're ABSOLUTELY sure that there's a stong bond between you too, let he experience what would be like to lose that emotional support.

Dissapear for a month. You don't have to go NC and should always be upbeat and happy, but claim you need some time for yourself.

Because right now you're giving her all the emotional support she needs, while the other guy gets away with using her every now and then...

 

[erictks]

thanks all brother for your ideas, but is ok de i confirm failure de . she send me a message something like this " i have to tell you , i really enjoy having you as a friend and i hope will stay this way" ... although we still got chat through phone ...haha but i dont see any chances de ... anyway sad case

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Erictks,

I think your situation is absolutely manageable. She's already getting a lot more emotional support from you than from her boyfriend.

She knows how you're feeling because you've asked her to be your gf. So if you're ABSOLUTELY sure that there's a stong bond between you too, let he experience what would be like to lose that emotional support.

Dissapear for a month. You don't have to go NC and should always be upbeat and happy, but claim you need some time for yourself.

Because right now you're giving her all the emotional support she needs, while the other guy gets away with using her every now and then...

This is absolutely bad advice for HIM, at this point. This MIGHT work with a situation totally different than theirs. He is a FRIEND. Is that so hard to grasp? Somebody who knows what they are doing might have a small chance, and even there, I would recomend just walk away, not for a month, for good.

He will cling to your post and say to himself, "Ah, I now have confirmation that I'm on the right track and everything is possible in the name of love", and ingore the rest of the solid, and obvious advice given by the other fellows here.

 

[tafakna]

Gangster,

Different opinons I guess, and as a new member I didn't expect people to embrace the idea.

Right now she's getting sex from a absent boyfriend, and all the emotional support with erictks.

She will have nothing with him because he's a friend, and she would be risking losing the emotional support he gets from him if anything else happened.

As soon as he withdrawals his friendship by going NC, her relationship should begin to fall apart and she would starting missing erictks more.

Anyway, I do AGREE that chances might be slim, specially if he didn't learn to command the Respect/Attraction that was not there in the first place.