"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Love at first sight?

Boomba

New Member
Joined
Jun 12, 2008
Messages
1
Reaction score
0
Location
SoCal
Hi I am new to this forums, but been a long time reader...I just finally decided to join today to ask questions haha

anyways...

I am not sure, but it seems like I fell in love with a girl I don't even know...I don't know...I am just really attracted to her. She is not like the other girls I see in college (skirts, booty shorts, dresses, etc). She dresses different and she has really nice eyes. The weird thing is that I started to notice a week or so ago that I think I like her...

it is weird because when I first saw her she caught my attention. The only time I see her is when I walk to class from my apartment to the trolley. I would see her only sometimes and it is very random too...I see her when I least expect it. For example, I was talking to my friends about her how she was really pretty, and suddenly she passes me by.

I was like woahh and it happened again couple days later. At that point I started to feel more attracted to her. Just couple of days ago I was just thinkin of her and I sat down to wait for the trolley and she magically walks by again...I was shocked again...Now, today my friend and I wanted to go eat close by and he wanted to take a different route, but I said no lets take the usual...guess what? I saw her from a far..but this time I glanced at her and she put her head down the whole entire time she was walkin towards me (shy?)...coincidence ehh?

I really want to get to know her. The thing is that school is technically over and I have until Friday (thats if she didn't go home already) to do something...It is just weird stoppin her when is walking cuz that seems creepy..I want to know how to approach her.

so guys & girls...can you help me out? tips...

thanks!

btw she lives in the same apt complex. same school. same walkway.


p.s.

sorry for long post...just wanted to get it out of my chest...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

IM0001

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 19, 2005
Messages
154
Reaction score
0
Age
40
Location
CA, USA
Well, go and talk to her. Then you will know if there is anything going on on her side. I would steer clear from telling her you are in love with her without ever actually meeting her though lol.
 

I'm Charming

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 24, 2008
Messages
177
Reaction score
5
Love at first sight? Rubbish, sounds like a spontaneous onset of oneitis.

You say that approaching her whilst she is walking would be creepy? Thats a bit of an excuse, I'd say staring from afar is bound to be much more sinister/creepy than approaching her.
 

Acq

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 7, 2008
Messages
169
Reaction score
1
baware of oneitis, its one hell of a cruel thing. Remember: she does not know you, you are a stranger to her. Dont be sad if she tells u to f*** off.

but go for it before she occupies ur mind for 100%
 

Mavrick

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 1, 2008
Messages
902
Reaction score
43
Don't mistake your infatuation and neediness for a beautiful woman as love. Don't let the nonsensical bullsh!t called "falling in love" fool you. What you are feeling are just a self delusion and self hypnosis causing you to believe you love this woman. Love takes time.

For all you know this woman could be covered in warts underneath those clothes. She may have a personality disorder. How could you possibly fall for a woman you don't know, and even better, why would you want to?

Don't fool yourself or become blinded by this mindset. It's a foolish man's mantra, and full of failure.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

The Bat

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 12, 2007
Messages
1,017
Reaction score
60
Just go and talk to her. The longer you spend fantasizing about her, the more un-real and "out of reach" she will seem to you. You'll be putting her on a pedestal (if you haven't already).

Plus, if she likes you too, then you're just killing your chances by not talking to her soon. You got to make a move. She will not make a move on you. You are a man. Lead, damn it. Go and talk to her.

Don't worry about what you're going to say. Just say hello and introduce yourself.

And yeah, there is no such thing as love at first sight. It's called "Lust at first sight". That magical moment when you can picture yourself just banging her silly against that headboard.
 
Top