trance_addict said:Thank you Desdinova.
As for Inlove, go meet her. Learn about who she is, she could be a total bore for all you know, not to mention that you'll reek of infatuation if you dont understand how women think, and how to hide it.
But the real underlying problem is that very word. Infatuation. Infatuation turns you into a pus$y, because you can't keep your focus off of that one girl that you know nothing about (or very little). Eventually, you either make a fool of yourself and she rejects you, or you come to find out she's not what you thought she was, she's just another pretty face. Eitherway, the outcome sucks on your part. The problem is most guys don't learn from this (without proper knowledge) and go on to the next girl to chase, just to fail once again because they dont understand the fundamentles of being attractive to women, and how to hold your ground.
Sure, sometimes we get in a situation where we really can't help our strong attraction for someone, theres nothing wrong with being attracted to someone, its how our species survived for so long. But in order to keep yourself balanced, you have to keep your sights elsewhere as well, go ask out other girls, have some fun, you might eventually prefer a different woman to the one you were originally infatuated with.
In order to be an efficient dater, you must leave yourself open for options. Its just like buying a used car, you dont simply go to the lot and buy the first one you see becasue its so shiny. You take a look at the other cars in the lot, the milage, the interior condition, all the little mechanical stuff that may or may not need repairs. What happens when you drive off with the first car you saw? Who knows! You could be 3 miles down the road and the fuel pump goes out, shoulda test drove the car first huh?
Finding a mate is just like this. You could date the first pretty babe you see, but who knows man, she could have a strange OCD, owns 50 cats, or maybe just plain psycho! You dont want to risk being stuck w/ something you didnt' bargain for do you? You've gotta check out all the other "used cars" in the lot before making a final decision.
Bro, you're saying your in love with a girl you've never met before? What will you do if the fuel pump goes out on this one? Your probably going to be left hurt, lonely, with little confidence. Guess what, confidence is the most attractive traight a man can have, and the most important traight. What will you do when you've let yourself lose all your confidence? I'm really not an a$shole, i'm just telling you what you need to know before you end up feeling like sh!t without a clue as to why.
Read up on this site, in fact, read every article on the sosuave articles database (http://www.sosuave.com/articles/default.htm) then re-think your situation. You'll know exactly what I'm talking about.
This community, for the most part, is like a giant family, were all here to help each other out, even if it does mean being harsh prickks
Thank you for your help bro
... i really appreciate it ... good luck ...
