"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lots of MILFs, cougars, and jailbait, but I can't go for them, should I avoid them?

Maeisgood

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I have a girlfriend I met in college who lives far away and I'm home for the summer. I work at this cool outdoor job where lots of females I probably shouldn't talk to walk by everyday, but because of always trying to be a Don Juan and stuff, I feel like I should at least talk to them anyway. I know I have a girlfriend, but because almost everyone will get a divorce at some point in their life, that being good with women is just a life-long skill every guy should cultivate as best as they possibly can... I wouldn't cheat on her and never have, but I still feel like an AFC or coward when I let such opportunities go by.

Plus, there is the legal/social aspect of talking to these girls. Since reading this site and listening to David D's stuff, its changed me for the better and I wouldn't have ever had an opportunity with most girls until recently. Most of these girls are 18 and under or 30s-40s house wife cougars (whom I hear are actually more sexually charged anyway). My girlfriend, while I like her, we probably won't be getting married because she lives 2 hours away and was a freshman while i was a first year senior at college. One of these girls/women I see may one day see me again. Does this background make sense, if not, I'll repost and make it more clear.

1) Should I talk to these various types of off-limits females, completely ignore them, or what? This seems like a gray area to me.

2) If how should I do the answer to number 1? I've been doing this for years and haven't gotten around to getting this ethical minefield cleared until now, regretably. I've missed 4 summers of this opportunity. I get to drink on this job a little, do manly things like work with machines, wild animals, I have some power because I have lots of keys to things and I can ticket adults. There are many opportunites to be witty, funny, manly, charming, powerful, and a DJ altogether, but how do I use this resource?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Maeisgood

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In short, my job makes me feel and almost get to act like the character "Buck" from Ice Age 3. I bet if there were other critters like him in the movie, he'd have his choice of female weezel thing...
 

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In the end it's the man's responsibility to pull the trigger. If you don't have the self-control to keep yourself from sleeping with these women if they find you attractive, then 1) what kind of person are you and 2) stay away from them!
 

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Dude...

Just fvck other women and rationalize this as you needing to get your rocks off as a man and then recognize that so long as you don't fall in love with any of these broads you are not cheating on your girlfriend.

Men can fvck other chicks and have it just be about sex.

Women usually cannot do that and tend to catch feelings.

So you'll be alright.

Don't blue ball yourself as you are not helping anyone to do so or accomplishing anything of great worth to do that.

Feminized society wants you to be guilty about this but to be guilty about it is only self defeating behavior which is what no enlightened man engages in.

Trust me if your woman lives far enough away she's sampling tons of other c0ck right now anyways that you'll never hear about so you might as well quit short changing yourself with this morality crew fagg0try and go balls deep in some b!tches.

Just don't ever tell her about it and if you get that guilty urge to let her know just imagine her giving some other guy a wicked bl0wjob because thats what she's doing right now or will do depending on how long you two are to be apart.
 

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I agree with The Kontroller. Go have fun, hone your dj skills, do what makes you happy. You aren't married, or even engaged to be married. And keep it to yourself.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kal0051

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well, stay away from the jailbait, no ***** is worth getting in deep with the law (and just so you know, jailbait is only girls that are under the age of consent, so maybe look into the laws in your area).
 

speakeasy

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Kal0051 said:
well, stay away from the jailbait, no ***** is worth getting in deep with the law (and just so you know, jailbait is only girls that are under the age of consent, so maybe look into the laws in your area).
When I think "jailbait" I'm thinking of girls who are 15 but look 18. Like the daughter of some lady I know who has a 14 year old daughter that's so developed at an early age that she looks bangable. Stay away from that **** at all costs, because if you go to jail, you are going to be at the bottom of the pecking order and you don't want to face guys like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxpUFcH-6Pk&feature=related
 

Kal0051

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speakeasy said:
When I think "jailbait" I'm thinking of girls who are 15 but look 18. Like the daughter of some lady I know who has a 14 year old daughter that's so developed at an early age that she looks bangable. Stay away from that **** at all costs, because if you go to jail, you are going to be at the bottom of the pecking order and you don't want to face guys like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxpUFcH-6Pk&feature=related
yeah, that's kinda what I'm talking about. But if those girls are above the age of consent then it really doesn't matter (some places the age of consent is like 16). So when in doubt ask for ID, lol.
 

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Good advice, I just hope my boss or someone else doesn't think I'm a sketch ball for talking to these younger females.

What about if I get married someday? Cheating is to me a horrible horrible thing that deserves to be punishable by branding.
 

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Talking to all females is good.

But not jailbait. Dude. You KNOW this.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You should know better than to mess with jailbait! Haven't you seen "To Catch A Predator?"
 

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"What about if I get married someday?"

As long as you strongly desire to fvck a variety of women you are not ready to get married.

If you upon dating a woman for a long while one day say to yourself this girl is great I'm head over heels for her and I don't want to fvck anybody else ever again then you can get married.

Until you can honestly say that and desire only that though don't fvck yourself over and get married and give in to all the indoctrination that you've been fed your entire life making you deeply internalize marriage as a preferable goal state to ward off loneliness.

A person can be a lonely old man and unfulfilled in his life even if he's got a wife by his side, a ton of kids and family constantly visiting.

If you think of marriage as a cure for becoming a lonely old man it isn't and even if it were there's no guarantees in life that it will last or your wife won't die of some illness or accident well before her time.

One of the three keys to psychological health and well being is investing oneself in a cause one views as greater than themself.

Marriage or religion can provide that for a person but its only because of the brainwashing one endures in their youth that builds these institutions up as something overly special that psychological contentment results from either of these.

The AFC deeply lost in his programming feeling the contentment from embracing one of these institutions gets the resulting psychological contentment from either and then turns himself over completely to one or both of these institutions since they brought him contentment and that is proof enough for the AFC of their validity. The AFC never realizes that his contentment is based on his previous brainwashing to view these institutions as special from birth on up and that he has been manipulated by the system.

What I'm saying is your well being and your sense of certainty and fulfillment in life does not require marriage, it requires self reflection and finding out what you truly want.

If you are happy with hooking up with chicks and short term relationships for the rest of your life along with some moderate to major hobbies then do that and be proud of yourself for following your own dreams and ideals not the course the societal cookie cutter has set for you.
 

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KontrollerX said:
"What about if I get married someday?"

As long as you strongly desire to fvck a variety of women you are not ready to get married.
Seriously, when does ANY guy ever lose the desire to bang a variety of women? It's built into our genes.

If you are happy with hooking up with chicks and short term relationships for the rest of your life along with some moderate to major hobbies then do that and be proud of yourself for following your own dreams and ideals not the course the societal cookie cutter has set for you.
I agree there. Only thing is, I feel that as you get older, it's harder and harder to find women who just want casual relationships. I almost feel like when you hit 30+, women are instantly trying to qualify you to see if you're marriage material.
 

Maeisgood

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The point of life is to replicate one's genes, whether you are a DJ, an AFC, a dog, an oak tree, horseshoe crab, or a bacteria cell. The chances of us being married are probably not good, but I was talking about in general, later in life.

When jailbait girls approach me and are flirtful, what do I do about them? Do I ask them to leave? When they ask why, how do I explain it in a non-creepy sounding way?

As for the MILFs and cougars, what sorts of things work on them best?
 
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