"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Lost weight, now what?

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I went from 200 lbs to 138 and lost alot of fat, people really noticed a differance. Now alls I have left is a little chub in my gut but definetly not what it was. I want to tighten up and not have any fat and show some muscles. What would be the best thing to do? To lose weight I just ate tuna and ran alot. Everytime I look into how to turn the little baby fat I have left into muscle. I see all these damn scientific terms etc. Can somone point me in the right direction.

For example, "salad for breakfast" "2 hours later a can of tuna" "small salad and eggwhite and tuna for dinner"

Basicly some plain english please?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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5'7 it took me along time to lose it but now im just skinny and not that big of muscles. just want to be pointed in a good diet direction to lose the rest. and gain muscle mass
 

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DEISEL's guides are a good place to start. I'd recommend bulking and not worrying about losing the rest of your fat right now. You've already lost plenty :eek:
 

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some guy told this girl he was mad ok "go hangout with that crackhead" i dont know if its becuase im skinny now or he was mad . besides the point.. if I bulk up then my stomach fat will stay though right?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by hungry_american
some guy told this girl he was mad ok "go hangout with that crackhead" i dont know if its becuase im skinny now or he was mad . besides the point.. if I bulk up then my stomach fat will stay though right?
More muscle mass makes it easier to maintain a lower bodyfat percentage. Also because you're new to mass building, most likely you'll lose a little more fat just by lifting for the first couple of months. But in the long term, a little fat gain is necessary to gain muscle mass naturally with most people. Anything between ~7% and 15% BF and you're perfectly healthy.
 

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still a little chub i guess... I just want a 6 pack or a little bit of a difined stomach. Ill search for deisels posts about bulking up. Is bulking up basicly lifting and eating alot ? i guess thats a stupid question
 

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Originally posted by hungry_american


still a little chub i guess... I just want a 6 pack or a little bit of a difined stomach. Ill search for deisels posts about bulking up. Is bulking up basicly lifting and eating alot ? i guess thats a stupid question
No need to search. They're stickied at the top of the page.

I wouldn't be too concerned with a 6 pack. Bulking up will make you much more attractive than being scrawny with a 6 pack, and you'll be healthier overall. Try for that 6 pack once you get some more muscle mass.

Yes bulking is basically lifting and eating alot, but there are right and wrong ways to do it. It can be very tough to build mass even if you know what you're doing - I can't imagin trying to do it without the right game plan. You need to know what kinds of food to eat, exactly how much, and exactly what lifting routine to use to effectively gain the most amount of muscle with the least amount of fat gain.
 
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