Lost too many friends feel soo lonely and sad, how to meet more friends? = (

[Happy_Camper]

hey thanks everyone, i havent replied on this thread for like ages but heres another problem.

I have a cell phone, in fact a Nokia n93i which is super expensive and nice but the thing is is that i sometimes get depressed over looking at my phone book. it only contains a few ppl and i dont have much ppl to call. In addition no one ever calls me either. I guess maybe im not a phone person. Cause when i call a close friend, its usually "Yo, 8 o clock at bloor station" and then hes like ok and then we hang up. I miss those long conversations i have over the phone with ppl. I was wondering if you guys have any tips.

Taking an intro to sociology course, i have read that depression is due to little social solidarity. This meaning without social contact or close or not enough friends it is why we get sad and depressed.

I really want to change this and hopefully be to my happy self again. Thanks everyone.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Dude, depression has a lot more to do with not moving and getting out to breathe in some sweet country air. Humid places depress me, like a wet blanket. You have to keep upbeat mental images swirling around in your brain, the screen of your mind. If it takes watching a movie that makes you happy EVERY day for the rest of your life, then set aside time to DO it, because depression is no place to be in this short life on Earth, regardless of age. I've met a woman who has been the Sunshine of my life. If I hadn't met her, I think that I would still be as depressed as I was about 3 years ago. Since then, it's been nothing but Up Hill. I've been happy ever since, mostly. I have so many references or mental images to draw upon, to make me happy at a moments notice, that I'll NEVER go back to being depressed ever again. It's all about finding your Love, the even-if-she-leaves-you kind of love. I have 'other' sources to prop myself up in hard times also. I go down fightin.

 

[JDA70]

If you keep doing what you've been doing
you'll keep getting what you've been getting.

Sounds like your looking for people to make you happy.
Don't do that. Learn to be happy with what you have.

Your not alone, you have people like me to talk to.

I lost all my friends when I gave up drugs, drinking, roleplaying games
and playing a couple of different musical instruments.

Sure it's lonely at times but I'm slowly getting my new life in order.

 

[DonJuan11]

I am currently in University right now (first year, and i stayed one year back in highschool)

You stayed back one year in high school?

Dude, that's a major problem right there.

 

[Happy_Camper]

You stayed back one year in high school?

Dude, that's a major problem right there.

why is that? it was because i didnt take any sciences courses and i didnt want to grow up not knowing anything about science and thats why i did it.

 

[Happy_Camper]

If you keep doing what you've been doing
you'll keep getting what you've been getting.

Sounds like your looking for people to make you happy.
Don't do that. Learn to be happy with what you have.

Your not alone, you have people like me to talk to.

I lost all my friends when I gave up drugs, drinking, roleplaying games
and playing a couple of different musical instruments.

Sure it's lonely at times but I'm slowly getting my new life in order.

thanks a lot man, thats great advice

Feels good to know someone else is on the same boat and to talk too

 

[Mr. Ballz]

You need to take action. "Be a man" to quote pook and dare yourself to move. Never stand still if you are unhappy with where you are. Clubs and sports should be your friends now and then you can meet some people with similar interests. At this point join anything, even if you arent into it. You have nothing to lose, remember that, it will make you more daring.

Also start talking to random people more. Make it a goal to speak to 5 new people a week. And at least 2 min. conversations even if forced to just get used to it. Back when I wanted more friends I went out and made myself get 2 new numbers a week (finding friends being guys). Most didnt go anywhere, but there was the occasional match that we both connected.

Of course develop yourself in the process. If you have social problems fix them. Dont be yourself if yourself isnt fun. Change. Be friendlier, joke around more, talk about the other person, JOKE AROUND MORE, humor has incredible power if used correctly.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, your life has just begun.

 

[Happy_Camper]

You need to take action. "Be a man" to quote pook and dare yourself to move. Never stand still if you are unhappy with where you are. Clubs and sports should be your friends now and then you can meet some people with similar interests. At this point join anything, even if you arent into it. You have nothing to lose, remember that, it will make you more daring.

Also start talking to random people more. Make it a goal to speak to 5 new people a week. And at least 2 min. conversations even if forced to just get used to it. Back when I wanted more friends I went out and made myself get 2 new numbers a week (finding friends being guys). Most didnt go anywhere, but there was the occasional match that we both connected.

Of course develop yourself in the process. If you have social problems fix them. Dont be yourself if yourself isnt fun. Change. Be friendlier, joke around more, talk about the other person, JOKE AROUND MORE, humor has incredible power if used correctly.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, your life has just begun.

I think this is the Best advice i have read on this thread, thank you sooo much im going to act on it now. I love the part where you made a goal about meeting a certain number of ppl each week and that sometimes not all of them go anywhere but ocassional there would be a good match. Also, its about taking the initiative. Thanks soo much, if you were beside me right now i wouldve offered you a beer lol