Hello,
I find myself in a very difficult situation. I have known this girl for 1.5 year now, and we were both really into each other. And then I mean REALLY into each other. Problem is I have had some major self esteem issues, and did not have the balls to ask her out. I don't exactly know what she saw in me, because I was the uncool kid in class. I wasn't exactly bullied, but the other dudes did give me a very hard time. She was the popular girl. She could have dated alot of guys over the past year and a half, because many were hitting on her, but she didn't go out with anyone. She kept flirting with me.
Me and her were flirting non-verbally for a very, very long time. If you guys could see the sings of interests she threw at me and see me doing nothing because I was too shy, you would all want to beat me up.
She had approached me, made eyecontact with me for over a hundred times and smiled at me, laughed at my jokes, sat beside me (and made body contact, toching legs), hugged me, stared at me, was super excited to see me, initiated kino with me, pulled me over to the dancefloor and danced with me, applied to a class where she knew only I was going to (none of her friends), her friends giggled at me, she kept the conversatoin between me and her going, she popped up out of nowhere, everywhere I go she followed me it seemed, she looked at me while she should be looking at something else (in class), she even gave me sexy bedroom eyes countless times. This for over a year of time.
:cuss:
I am banging my head on the wall right now, at this very moment. I was the biggest AFC in the world because I didn't do anything, just flirted back, but not ask her out. I did not have a clue what to do. I think this has made her think that I was not interested in her. Now about a month ago she started seeing some dude, and they are dating. Now I don't blame her for that, If I were her I would have done the same, I only blame myself for being such a prick. Her interest for me has gone from super ultra high to low the past month.
Now I know what you all will say: drop her. Get another girl. GFTOW.
Problem is that with all this non verbal flirting between me and her, with such intensity and over a very veeery long time, I have started developing feelings for her. And it really kills me inside seeing her kiss and leave with this other guy. Conversations between me and her have gotten kind of awkward, because we both know what's up.
What should I do? I have lost her in this round, but maybe if I now go and improve myself and become a Don Juan, do I have a chance with her on the next? How do I perceive her? Should I go no contact? I see her 15 hours a week.. Should I still flirt with her? Or is she gone forever?
I am now planning to go after other girls and improve my social skills, not going to wait for her by any means... I really see this as a learning experience, but if there is still a chance for me and her being together in the future I would gladly take it.
I find myself in a very difficult situation. I have known this girl for 1.5 year now, and we were both really into each other. And then I mean REALLY into each other. Problem is I have had some major self esteem issues, and did not have the balls to ask her out. I don't exactly know what she saw in me, because I was the uncool kid in class. I wasn't exactly bullied, but the other dudes did give me a very hard time. She was the popular girl. She could have dated alot of guys over the past year and a half, because many were hitting on her, but she didn't go out with anyone. She kept flirting with me.
Me and her were flirting non-verbally for a very, very long time. If you guys could see the sings of interests she threw at me and see me doing nothing because I was too shy, you would all want to beat me up.
She had approached me, made eyecontact with me for over a hundred times and smiled at me, laughed at my jokes, sat beside me (and made body contact, toching legs), hugged me, stared at me, was super excited to see me, initiated kino with me, pulled me over to the dancefloor and danced with me, applied to a class where she knew only I was going to (none of her friends), her friends giggled at me, she kept the conversatoin between me and her going, she popped up out of nowhere, everywhere I go she followed me it seemed, she looked at me while she should be looking at something else (in class), she even gave me sexy bedroom eyes countless times. This for over a year of time.
:cuss:
I am banging my head on the wall right now, at this very moment. I was the biggest AFC in the world because I didn't do anything, just flirted back, but not ask her out. I did not have a clue what to do. I think this has made her think that I was not interested in her. Now about a month ago she started seeing some dude, and they are dating. Now I don't blame her for that, If I were her I would have done the same, I only blame myself for being such a prick. Her interest for me has gone from super ultra high to low the past month.
Now I know what you all will say: drop her. Get another girl. GFTOW.
Problem is that with all this non verbal flirting between me and her, with such intensity and over a very veeery long time, I have started developing feelings for her. And it really kills me inside seeing her kiss and leave with this other guy. Conversations between me and her have gotten kind of awkward, because we both know what's up.
What should I do? I have lost her in this round, but maybe if I now go and improve myself and become a Don Juan, do I have a chance with her on the next? How do I perceive her? Should I go no contact? I see her 15 hours a week.. Should I still flirt with her? Or is she gone forever?
I am now planning to go after other girls and improve my social skills, not going to wait for her by any means... I really see this as a learning experience, but if there is still a chance for me and her being together in the future I would gladly take it.