"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lost my virginity and I did extremely well, wtf?

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I haven't admitted to my friends or even her that this was the first time I had sex, but last night I had sex with this girl I'm seeing.

What baffles me is how well I did. I thought I'd be one of those guys who blows it in a minute or so, but I didn't. I didn't blow it at all because she threw in the towel before me, at 5 a.m. after she'd continuously orgasmed for over an hour.

She kept asking me how I was doing it. I was like idk it's always been like this, which was a lie. I told her I could go all night, and she smiled and said "Don't tell me this!"

So yea, at 5 a.m., I got off of her and we both covered in sweat. She chugged an entire bottle of water and went to sleep.

She said she'd never seen anything like this. She's never had to give up before the guy.

I think it was the condom. I felt so little. I couldn't even tell if it was in, but when I saw her face I knew it was in, and then I just thrusted.

We had sex in the morning too, and it was the same deal. Except we switched positions after 30 mins or so because I was getting tired, but yea I didn't finish at all at her place. She felt pretty bad about that and promised me a bj next time because she couldn't do it then; she absolutely hates the taste of latex, which I understand.

My question is: are there any good condoms that have a good balance between feeling and pleasing?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The reason you didnt finish could have been down to nerves and losing your V card, as all guys react differently to there first time as some guys finish straight away others cant get it up and like you, some cant finish themselves.
I had this on the 2nd time i ever done it no matter what i done i couldnt finish.Think its like every thing tho the more you do it the more comftable you will get so i wouldnt worry about not finishing, plus she now thinks you last all night.

On the condom front you could go for featherlight condom Ie. really thin so it seems like you have nothing on thus increasing pleasure and feeling, or a ribbed or raised condom to heighten pleasure for the both of you.
 

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I always carry aroudn the Durex Featherlight condoms. These are ultra tin condoms. While still blocking away some of the feelings, I am capable of attaining orgasms with them. If I use regular condoms, I can literally keep pounding away for a few hours before blowing my load(if at all).

Thankfully, I've had plenty of girls not give a rat's ass about the condom taste, and after they had a few orgasms, they tend to just rip off the condom and blow to me to climax.

Just find some ultra-thin condoms. However, when you do use them, be extra careful with rings and ****oral piercings! I've had a condom just tear open because I accidentally rubbed it for a bit too long against her pierced cl!t

On a side-note: I usually have this when having sex for the first time with a new girl. It's a matter of trust that makes it more difficult for me to climax. Could be that.
 

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Try Crown condoms. Best Ive used.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Trojans extra sensitive (lubricated) work for me. They come in a gray box.

Plus don't worry about taking a really long time. You can have long repetitious sex and it still won't be as good as a really brief 7 minutes of intense, hard sexual ravaging.
 

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Jerking off + condoms bro


first time here was the same 2-3 hours


don't admit being a virgin, cause you aren't :)
 

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I'll pick up some of those ultra-thin ones. I talked to her about it, and we both think it's the condoms, but I don't quite know. She's jerked me off and given me a blow job, and I still haven't finished in 5 or 6 times having sex with her.

Ugh, I'll finish with her one day... :\
 

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You should use Durex fetherlight condoms (they come in in a red box). Also if you've had a few drinks before hand that can desensitize you as can wacking off. You also have to consider is this girl that attractive? Its possible you just don't fancy her and thats why its hard to come. Hope this helps buddy.
 

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Maybe a really weird question, but does she swallow? Because if she does, you can help her a hand by having sex, and then when you really want to blow thy load, help a bit by whacking off until you're about to bust and have her finish it.

However, this requires that she doesn't mind having a mouthful and/or likes to swallow. I'm in a bit of the same at the moment, I can have sex for hours. At times I just whack off and finish in her mouth, but she loves it when I do that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Its because ur thinking about it, when your doing it are you worrying about comming? as if this is on your mind you wont ***. Just let go and enjoy it without thinking about finishing and youll be fine.
 

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I tried a trojan ultra-thin condom last night, and I did finally finish. It just took 30-45 mins... She started licking my hear while I was forkin her, and that was purrddy sweet.

I mean she is hot. I'm highly attracted to her, and I enjoy having sex with her. I can keep it hard for the entire time. It just takes me at least 30-45 mins for me to blow my load.

This shouldn't be a problem... I should be proud of this, but with her she's like "After the 15th orgasm, it gets tedious." I'm not sure how much I believe her though because she's really into it. I can't even talk to her; I'll be like do something, and she may or may not answer or she'll say what. It's as though she's in another world while we're having sex, a world where she doesn't g'damn hear me. :p
 

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its weird, i had this same.. (we wont call it a problem).. thing occuring.

only i didnt lose my virginity to her, I dunno what it was, but it was just as we started seeing eachother. I think its a subconscious thing, when you become more relaxed around her and carry on slamming her, it'll go back to normal!
 

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Swashbuckler said:
I tried a trojan ultra-thin condom last night, and I did finally finish. It just took 30-45 mins... She started licking my hear while I was forkin her, and that was purrddy sweet.

I mean she is hot. I'm highly attracted to her, and I enjoy having sex with her. I can keep it hard for the entire time. It just takes me at least 30-45 mins for me to blow my load.

This shouldn't be a problem... I should be proud of this, but with her she's like "After the 15th orgasm, it gets tedious." I'm not sure how much I believe her though because she's really into it. I can't even talk to her; I'll be like do something, and she may or may not answer or she'll say what. It's as though she's in another world while we're having sex, a world where she doesn't g'damn hear me. :p
Are you always on top?
Just asking, because several positions will help you climax faster than others.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kailex said:
Are you always on top?
Just asking, because several positions will help you climax faster than others.
We've done a couple. I'm 90% on top. I tried doggystyle, but the bed was so bouncy that I was focusing more on keeping balance.

Do you recommend any positions?
 
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