"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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onyx

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yeh, i met this girl in a club, made out with her etc, got her number, at end of night she asked for my number when we saw each other again..

this all happened on a friday night

on saturday and sunday i must hav got abt 60 text messages from her, no joke, i replied to abt 7. I was workin id get on my break and hav abt 15 new messages lol

any ways she asked me to meet her on the monday, i said ok but then i decided to go out with my m8s and called her to tell her i had plans and cudnt make it, she was ok abt it, and said she wud call me to reschdule, so in the week she text me, and i met up on the followin monday

we had arranged to go to a bar but we ended up goin back to hers, we watched dvd for abit, well not really haha

then she said lets go upstairs for abit i like ok, we played abt for abt 3 hours, got BJ but nothin more, cos she was on her period

any ways later that night when id gone home she text me to let me know she was off her period, and she sent me a pic of her in her thong..

she foned me on the wednesday, and i was stoned and in a giddy mood...she asked when i wanted to meet up wid her next and i said i wasnt sure i wud hav to let her know cos ive got assignments to hand in at college so she said ok, then get this, she asked me for a ratin out of 10 on the BJ ROFL! i cudnt help but laugh, but she continusely asked me throughout our fone call

she then asked me abt been in a relationship wid her, i said id only known her 1 week, i think its abit soon, id rather just keep seein u and let things develop, but she wudnt hav any of it, i said i had to go and i ended the convo

again she foned me the next day askin for a ratin of 10 on the BJ LOL and askin if i was ready to b in a relationship wid her...this time i said the same thing but said...ive never been very good in relationships, so lets just let things flow and see how it goes

any ways she then stopped contact with me completely for abt 4 days, then i got a text askin how i was etc, i was doin my usual c/f with her, but she got all *****y abt it, where as b4 she wud laugh and call me a devil rofl, which i thought was kinda corny

i said

me: r we gunna hook up this week
her: no
me: uve changed ur tune thought u was wantin to see me
her: well uve made it clear that we want different things


any ways i left it, cos i was only wantin to hav sex wid her, was no biggy to me, few days later she said, she has to admit to me, that she was leadin me on all along and she never fancied me..i just laughed her and said go play ur games with sum 1 else

any ways i didnt hear from her for abt 1 month, i was expectin a fone call off my m8 abt goin out, and she foned, i was thinkin wtf does she want, any ways she foned me to just say she saw me on the bus, i said why u fonin me to tell me that im busy, fone me sum other time and hung up




i guess my question is, what did i do wrong
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PeeGee

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It's a bit hard to read through your shorthand, but you did everything properly. In fact I'm reminded of two things: she can attempt to feign disinterest and lie about how interested she was, and you handling that very well by calling her on it while saying goodbye.

Nice.
 

TedJustAdmitIt

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FFS mate.....this is not a mobile phone and you are not writing a text message.....I gave up trying to read your post after the third line.
 

onyx

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ahha sorry lads, didnt realise it was that difficult for people to read

Do you want me to use proper english and type things out in full, such as cos = because? or is it that my grammar is bad?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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