Lost Interest?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

azanon

Master Don Juan

Sep 24, 2007

1.5 years and she's still just a girlfriend? 1.5 yrs is a lot of test driving! Sounds like your time ran out. Most women have an undisclosed amount of time for you to give them that metallic circular band; well, except for the ones with low self-esteem/few other options. Some will wait twice that, or three times that, but not all of them.

Hey, don't misunderstand me here. If she wasn't marriage material, I'm certainly not suggesting you marry her anyway. I'm just saying don't think its realistic to keep a girlfriend indefinitey if, for no other reason, because........... it isn't realistic.

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.