Lost girl. Need to man up.

[JoeDallas]

So heres my story, any advice would be appreciated.

Met a girl back in January, fooled around that night. We get into a commited relationship only a few days in. Sex stops a week later. Being the AFC I am I had no idea why the sex stopped, so I increased my niceness 10x, hoping that would lead to sex. Of course, it just made things worse. The only time we did have sex after the first few weeks was when my grandma died, a pitty fvck.

Five months into the relationship after lots of fighting she says she "needs a break." Im torn up, but ok with it.. I go to stay at my moms house (was living with her). I didnt handle the break too well, the first night I got to see her after a few days apart- I accuse her of cheating on me. I get so anrgry that I have to leave, the next day I apologize. After a few weeks she decides to officialy end the relationship. This is where it takes a turn for the worse, I break down.. start crying.. and didnt stop for atleast two months. We still hang out alot.. she calls me, I call her.

Then I find SoSuave and thank God I did. Atleast I have this situation somewhat figured out. I know that if I ever want to get laid again Im going to have to man up, take the lead and start living with confidence. A big part of this is not having hangups over one woman.. having the ability to walk away. But Im having a hard time doing this with the ex, I feel like if I show her Ive changed that she will take me back. Unfortunatly the change in me will never be a true change until I do it for myself.

Do you guys think I could drop my AFC ways and man up while still trying to get back with the ex?

 

[Ostepop]

Drop your AFC ways, AND drop any thoughts of getting back with your ex is a much better way to go

 

[KontrollerX]

You can man up anytime you want but getting the ex back at this point would only be the result of luck.

In most of these cases even if you change into the ultimate DJ she will still be psychologically stuck with her image of you as a snivelling whiny annoying AFC.

A wise poster once said in times like this the only way you can win the girl back is by changing the way she thinks of you and this guy did get his oneitis back but only after a lot of time had passed where he fixed himself and she forgot about him and then they ran into eachother by chance meeting many months to a year later I forget which but anyway...

Just worry about making yourself into a DJ now and once you learn enough internalize it, believe you are this new man and whatever will be will be.

Chances are you change enough you will realize you want something better than her and the brain chemicals looking for your next fix of her attention will of moved on to making you seek out that pretty blonde you saw in the library last Saturday or whenever.

 

[MrGold]

I just recently broke up with my ex that id been with for 2 years. Only way to deal with it is to GO OUT AND GET SOME PVSSY! U'll forget all the crappy times youve have without her when you realise theres so many more women out there waiting for you!