Lost Confidence

[green69]

Over the last little while my confidence has dropped. I got hung up on one girl things didn't really work out and now I'm feeling like I can't find anyone else!

It all comes down to one thing. A few months ago, I developed this scar on my face. Now it's not a hideous scar, nor is it that big...but it's noticeable. It is raised above the skin and it doesn't look good at all. It say it looks a lot worse than a big red pimple because at least pimples are nice and rounded, whereas raised scars definitely are not!

More so than the actual scar itself, it really bothers me and my game is a lot worse now. When I felt good about my looks it definitely helped my confidence and my personality.

I've decided to get the scar removed (or drastically) reduced via laser surgery. Unfortunately, it'll prolly take like 6 months till I can get the procedure done cuz of the long waiting list. Ahhhhh this sucks

 

[[S]alvatore]

It'll make you look tougher. Seen Scarface before? Was the scar noticeable?

 

[dirtysouth]

Scarface was a pimp with it. Don't let it phase you - you're personality is what it's about. Dudes with scars worse than yours are picking up, so you know you can, too.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

Dude you need to reframe that sh1t. It's all in your head bro. It's been said about 10000000x on here - yea looks matter but your personality is a zillion times more important.

Make up an adventurous story about fighting wolverines with your Uncle, a friggin twelve gague, and heck yes you killed them, they were attacking your cousin what would YOU DO?!?!

But seriously, scars are kinda cool man. Maybe you were in a knife fight.

When (IF) a girl asks about it, get real quiet and say it was from a time in your life that you don't like to think about. You were messed up in some bad stuff but you've got your life back on track. That will add so much mystery to you she'll be thinking - maybe he got attacked or whatever and surived. Dude the possibilities are endless. Just don't lie about it. Be mysterious about it. Say it's a long story and you only just met the person. It will drive them wild.

PMA baby. POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE.

EDIT: OH SH1T I'M A SENIOR DON JUAN NOW

 

[WaterTiger]

While you're waiting for the laser surgery, try this: http://www.mederma.com/ It's supposed to reduce scars. May help, and it's cheaper than the surgery.

 

[Mjazz]

where is the scar? chicks dig scars man, its true

 

[Nexus Polaris]

Listen to everybody. My best friend picks up chicks like it's nothing, and he's got a humungous scar over his eye where a guy broke a pool cue over his face in a fight. It just adds to his bad boy image. If anything, it's actually helped his game.

And of course there's Tony Montana. I think one reason I dug Scarface so much was that he was considerably shorter and uglier than his partner in crime as well as having that scar on his face. But he called all the shots. He snagged Michelle Pfeiffer. His tall pretty boy friend was working for him. Not the other way around.

He sums it all up with the line, "You don't have the guts to be what you want to be."

 

[The Shocker]

Agree with Mind Body Soul and Nexus. Scars can add to your image if you play it in the right way.

 

[green69]

I appreciate the responses. I have to say that I don't really agree with the whole 'tough guy image' because of the scar. The only reason why I say that is because it's just basically a small part of the skin which is raised/uneven and slightly discoloured. It doesn't really look like a 'tough guy' scar at all IMO.

But, after taking a second look at the scar it is not as bad compared to how I was freaking out about it. Ya you can see it, but a lot of times when I look in the mirror and I am not thinking about it I don't even see it. The fact that I know it's there makes it hard not to see it, but to the unknowing person they might not even notice it.

I am still gonna look into laser removal, but I'm not just gonna sit there in the meantime and let it effect my game (not too much at least ).

 

[KarmaSutra]

While you're waiting for the laser surgery, try this: http://www.mederma.com/ It's supposed to reduce scars. May help, and it's cheaper than the surgery.

I can attest that Mederma works and works very very well. Li'l Ms. K had a pretty bad cut on her hand. She used Mederma for 4 weeks and you can only notice it now after she's pointed it out to you.

 

[Obsidian]

the guy who plays the emperor in Gladiator has a scar that obviously did not come from a knife fight, and chicks dig him

 

[green69]

Thank you all for ur replies. I've been using the Mederma on my raised scar, and I have seen some improvement. I'm a big numbers guy, so if I had to put a % on how much it has improved since the two weeks since I've been using it, i'd say about 15%. Not a humongous improvement so far, but it is definitely more smooth and less noticeable. I have been using it on a couple acne scars on my cheeks, but it has been causing a red irritation around it so I had to discontinue use. But no allergic reactions on the raised scar (the one I am concerned about). So I'm feelin a little more confident because it's a little better now, and it's definitely not gonna get any worse as long as I keep applying it everyday.

 

[green69]

Tried mederma for a number of months saw hardly any improvement. Saw a dermatologist and he actually said he doesn't think it's a scar, but rather just a raise area of skin due to buildup/gunk in my nose.

It's taken me a LONG time to psychologically get over this thing on my nose, but now that I have it doesn't effect me at all anymore. People wouldn't even notice I had it unless I pointed it out, and even if you do notice it's not hideous.

I think more important than actually how bad the 'scar' looks was that in my head it was bothering me. After finally coming to terms with it so to speak I notice that it hasn't effected my game or my overall appearance at all. Of course given the choice I'd rather it not be there, but it's not a big deal and I can live with it. And if it's not a scar like the dermatologist said then it might get better in time as my face continues to clear up.

 

[SinJester]

Use Bio-Oil

I know how you feel though.

 

[j-flex]

i would keep the scar.

so when people (girls) ask you how you got it you can always answer:

-You should have seen the other guy
-Eating Pvssy

 

[Canadian Catnip]

Harrison Ford has a Scar and the women get all wet for him and he is pretty old as well.