salinechow
Senior Don Juan
June 1st.
7 year LTR ends I am relieved. Of course you'd miss even prison after 7 years but hardly.
I immediately begin to self-improve. Hit the gym, lost 35 pounds, and got ripped. Bought a new car. Completely redid my apartment. Started surfing again.
August 1st.
After about 2months someone convinced me to go on Tinder. Met a HB8 and we fell in love. Or so I thought. Yeah, Yeah, I know its Tinder. Broke my heart after 6 weeks.
September 30th. I find SS and have an epiphany. I begin my DJ walk and start to practice. Plates. CF. Indifference. NC. Drowning the AFC to protect my heart. Appearance. Etc...
There have been great highs that have exceeded my expectations. New outlook, plus my already good traits that were not AFC related have made for some things going really well. Cold Approaches. Escalation. Kino stuff. And even handling some of the rejections.
The lows are still there. Lonely AFC boy still wants a lady around to reciprocate affection, eat dinner with, laugh with and look at, listen to music. F^cking. You know.
So at the height of it, if including all the long plays, (2 chicks had boyfriends but are/were responsive), I think I had a total of 8 plates. 3 Seriously considering me. And usually only one I would consider with any real intention.
All the online dating sites prove invaluable to me. I only met up with one girl from match, nice girl, just no spark. 1 girl from Tinder. Although Tinder I do get a little more traction and potential out of. OK Cupid sucks. Every girl that demonstrates interest there looks like a prison guard. Match pretty much the same. Sent out probably 2 hundred messages of varied sorts. Nothing. Convos always fizzle. No fun at all. I dont think I have spoken to one girl more than 4 messages. The online thing is actually and ego stumbling block I think. Plus, as some of you have followed my posts, I am eons better in person or even on the phone. I am however, a desperately bad closer at times (sex and sexiness are still pretty foreign to me until I get comfortable with a girl)( I don’t really like to pump and dump, I have trouble with sex without connection)(for now)
So here it is... Should I just shut it down for a while? Stop everything. No approaches. No flirting. No online matching. Just self-betterment and reflection.
I think even though the pendulum has swung from AFC to DJ, I still stink of desperation. Maybe take 6 weeks off. Till after the holidays and see what happens organically but stop all pursuit?
Or, alternatively, should I keep my momentum, try to get to 50 rejections, and keep spinning and dropping plates until something clicks.
( I love that philosophy by the way. It makes a fun game out of getting rejection and alleviates the fear of it. I have even used it to talk with girls.
" Hi, I am doing a little experiment, I am trying to get rejected by the prettiest girl I can find for that day to help me feel better about getting my heart broken by a girl who isn’t even as hot as you." Works like a charm 4/5 times.)
By the way, as a wild card to this, I have recently developed a F^ck buddy over the last week. Girl I dated 10 years ago and then again 5 years ago that loves me, but has always been cool enough to shut it down when I tell her too. Pssst.. the years have not been good for her weight but she is still firm and cool and fun. A little trashy lifestyle wise but has a good heart and is warm and fun. HB5.5
So if you all do recommend shutting it down for a while do I cut her off also?
Lastly, if I do take a break, I am worried about the struggle of my oneitis NC without plates. Thoughts?
7 year LTR ends I am relieved. Of course you'd miss even prison after 7 years but hardly.
I immediately begin to self-improve. Hit the gym, lost 35 pounds, and got ripped. Bought a new car. Completely redid my apartment. Started surfing again.
August 1st.
After about 2months someone convinced me to go on Tinder. Met a HB8 and we fell in love. Or so I thought. Yeah, Yeah, I know its Tinder. Broke my heart after 6 weeks.
September 30th. I find SS and have an epiphany. I begin my DJ walk and start to practice. Plates. CF. Indifference. NC. Drowning the AFC to protect my heart. Appearance. Etc...
There have been great highs that have exceeded my expectations. New outlook, plus my already good traits that were not AFC related have made for some things going really well. Cold Approaches. Escalation. Kino stuff. And even handling some of the rejections.
The lows are still there. Lonely AFC boy still wants a lady around to reciprocate affection, eat dinner with, laugh with and look at, listen to music. F^cking. You know.
So at the height of it, if including all the long plays, (2 chicks had boyfriends but are/were responsive), I think I had a total of 8 plates. 3 Seriously considering me. And usually only one I would consider with any real intention.
All the online dating sites prove invaluable to me. I only met up with one girl from match, nice girl, just no spark. 1 girl from Tinder. Although Tinder I do get a little more traction and potential out of. OK Cupid sucks. Every girl that demonstrates interest there looks like a prison guard. Match pretty much the same. Sent out probably 2 hundred messages of varied sorts. Nothing. Convos always fizzle. No fun at all. I dont think I have spoken to one girl more than 4 messages. The online thing is actually and ego stumbling block I think. Plus, as some of you have followed my posts, I am eons better in person or even on the phone. I am however, a desperately bad closer at times (sex and sexiness are still pretty foreign to me until I get comfortable with a girl)( I don’t really like to pump and dump, I have trouble with sex without connection)(for now)
So here it is... Should I just shut it down for a while? Stop everything. No approaches. No flirting. No online matching. Just self-betterment and reflection.
I think even though the pendulum has swung from AFC to DJ, I still stink of desperation. Maybe take 6 weeks off. Till after the holidays and see what happens organically but stop all pursuit?
Or, alternatively, should I keep my momentum, try to get to 50 rejections, and keep spinning and dropping plates until something clicks.
( I love that philosophy by the way. It makes a fun game out of getting rejection and alleviates the fear of it. I have even used it to talk with girls.
" Hi, I am doing a little experiment, I am trying to get rejected by the prettiest girl I can find for that day to help me feel better about getting my heart broken by a girl who isn’t even as hot as you." Works like a charm 4/5 times.)
By the way, as a wild card to this, I have recently developed a F^ck buddy over the last week. Girl I dated 10 years ago and then again 5 years ago that loves me, but has always been cool enough to shut it down when I tell her too. Pssst.. the years have not been good for her weight but she is still firm and cool and fun. A little trashy lifestyle wise but has a good heart and is warm and fun. HB5.5
So if you all do recommend shutting it down for a while do I cut her off also?
Lastly, if I do take a break, I am worried about the struggle of my oneitis NC without plates. Thoughts?