Lost all interest in people

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don Juan

Oct 23, 2008

Huffman said:
But deep down, I do want to be social, I want to make more friends, I want to CARE again.

You ever felt that way?

Oh hell yes !

And you know what i realized after years (literally) of trying to make people to be closer to me and like me ?

I realized that unless i show myself the same treatment i enjoy from people i can't expect others to do it

How this relates to your dilemma ?
Well, you want to connect with people on an emotional level, Feel that trust and love and the you-can-relax-now feeling...you want to get to know people more and have fun with them

So ask yourself this; how well are you really connected to who you are IN THIS MOMENT and how much fun do you have by yourself ?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.