Loss of a wingman ?

[Connor99]

My buddy and I were hitting the bars every weekend and having a good time..But when he met a girl we dont really hang out much and every time he calls me so we can hangout and have some beers its ALWAYS with his girlfriend..In fact he's been with his g/f now for 2 years and I swer everytime he calls me so we can hangout his GF is with him..Its unreal

I know if tell him I dont wanna hang out with him when he's with his g/f all the time he's gonna take it the wrong way and think I dont like her which isnt true

I dont have any fun hanging out with him when he' with his g/f... Do u guys enjoy chillin with your friends when they have the g/f with them ?

Any thoughts

 

[magickarl]

My thought-> Pick up a girl and go on a double date.

 

[Connor99]

Double dates are just awkward imo unless the girls know each other and are from the same click of friends...I find girls pretty much hate other girls especially with guys around(After the date they just talk **** about each other LOL)

Plus the older u get the more weird double dates get..Its fine in high school but IMO they suck and its not much fun when say past the age of 23.

Plus my good friend has been with his chick for 2.5 years now...They arent really dating anymore lol Its pretty much an established relationship..he's pretty much married.

IMO guys nights out are just as important as spending time with the wife...Isnt it all about balance ? Who wants to be at the sports bar watching football eating wings and crushing beers and his g/f is hanging of his shoulder

My question is simply this....is it asking too much if u can leave the wife at home lol

im just wondering if guys see this the same way i do

 

[foomee]

no i would totally agree. i've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year now, yet i make time to hang out solely with my buddies. they constantly comment me that they like how i don't have to bring my girlfriend every where i go and we can have guy only nights.
but yeah, even though he's practically married instead of telling him "dude don't bring your girl" comment him on the times that he doesn't bring his girl and make subtle hints that it's cool when guys don't always need their girlfriend around them. he'll eventually pick it up and he'll make the choice on his own.

 

[Connor99]

I swear in the 2, 2.5 years he's been with this girl NOT once have I hung out with him and his girl wasn't with him...NOT ONCE

And every time he invites me somewhere or wants to hang out his g/f is always some how involved in the plans

I just find it weird and annoying....Sometimes I wonder if his g/f has something to do with it...I dunno

 

[Dannyrt34]

dude he's your friend so you can just tell him how you told us. Just say "hey, your girlfriend is a cool chick, but I miss the guys only nights!"

 

[J Roc]

get a new wingman

 

[#41]

Or you could attack the problem from the opposite end and get some of your female friends / plates to see if they can befriend this girl and go out on some "girls night" stuff so that you and your buddy can have time. Usually when a guy and a girl are tied at the hip, it's because one of the two doesn't have a social life outside of the relationship (and it's a giant red flag, IMO, when a girl doesn't have female friends).

But, better option is just to find a new wingman. Even if you could get him away from his dame, would he really be up for helping you game by talking to other women? Sounds like he's pretty into his girl and more than a bit whipped -- he'd probably balk at the idea of doing anything that might be construed as being unfaithful.

Count yourself lucky -- one of my wingmen started dating this girl 7 months ago and she made him break off all ties with his old friends to spend his time with her. He's got a new phone number he won't give out, living with her in a new apartment he won't give anyone the location of, deleted his myspace and his facebook accounts, and won't respond to e-mail. This is a guy, mind you, that I've been friends with for almost 9 years. Some of the other friends he's blown off he's known even longer.