"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Losing virginity

Naapimp

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Is losing your virginity to someone your not in a relationship with something you’d regret? What are your guys’ opinions on this?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DJStudent

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Really depends on your train of thought. Some guys just want action and even if it's your first time, they don't care all that much. I lost mine to a girl I love, and still continue to love even though we're not together any more. So to me it was worth waiting. I waited until I was 18.

Now I really don't care who I have sex with though. Just as long as she fit certain standards.
 

Naapimp

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I guess your pretty happy with that, I would be too. I guess I'm more wondering what the guys who weren't in love/relationship with their first girls think about how that turned out for them.
 

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if you actually care so much about losing it.... if u don't, go crazy like a bunny... besides it's healthy b/c it's a workout as long as you get the top... you would also regret it if it's with a fat chick unless she's pretty haha
 

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Personally, it doesn't really mean much to me. First of all, I thought I loved this girl. Turned out she was just playing me. Kinda like using me for a lay only. I did like it a lot, and that was one of the reasons why I got so screwed when she left. But in the end, losing my virginity to anyone is unimportant. Cause I might have wanted to lose it to someone special, but the girl could always turn out to be a lousy ass hor. If it really did mean so much, I would've been careful and waited longer. So there was no regrets. Actually, from that experience, I've learned never to regret my actions. Some of my actions may seem like a stupid shyt thing to do, but I always take it as learning experience.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Qualtran

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Well when girls I'm dating ask me about my first time, they seem to like hearing that me and my highschool sweetheart lost our virginity together senior year 2000... on a personal note though, I would have been happy to lose it long before that! It was cool at the time when I was with my highschool sweetheart, but now that I've been with a bunch of other chicks, it really doesnt make a difference. All that really matters is the chick you are currently having sex with, the ones from the past become amusing memories.
 

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i lost mine to some random pick up in a night club when i first started clubbing. didnt seem to bother me, i was 17 and i thought to my self im faling behind concidering most people around me had lost it at the age of 14,15 during school. i didnt care about my virginty but if you do i would recommend saving it for some one special and create a memorable experience. all i remember from my first time is a room spinning (was drunk) and some crap rock music playing in the back ground.
 

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I lost my virginity to a very good friend of mine... It was very strange tho, cause, eventhough she likes sex, she never involves herself emotionally while having it, so it was physical-excercise-only... Interesting enough, we became even better friends after two weeks of fvckin like rabbits.

I think it's crucial to have someone older and more experienced to you lose virginity with. She was MUCH younger (I was 18, she was 14), but more experienced, but I got the idea she only had AFCs before me, so she said it was the best sex she ever had.. (oh, how happy was I to read The Bible)
 

superchristx

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Chastity is the kind of idea that priests, sexed teachers, parents want to put into your head and you prolly wouldnt have thought of your self. If you were a fourteen year old cave man and you saw a girl w/ legs spread would you say to yourself 'No I honestly dont want to hit that.' ? Would you?

Think of it this way, is marrying a virgin something that most women really want? What if you meet 'the one' at 25 and you have no experience in bed, you cant find the ****oris and you ejack after 30 seconds? Now she's gotta train you all by herself ... way to go. Anyway for all practical purposes its better to lose it earlier, just DONT GET ANYONE PREGNANT. Catching HIV or becoming a father is not getting your sexlife off to a good start.
 
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