"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Losing the mindset, help!

iCatch

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for the past month i've improved my game by A LOT. i woke up today and just felt different and i kinda went back to being a chump. how do i get out of this? it seems like if i start the day slow my game suffers the rest of the day
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jeffthechef

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i['m going through something similar....
i was oneitis free for about 5 months..but after checking out all the options..i'm back at that one girl...

i've also had days where if i don't feel GooD in the morning part of the day i feel bored the rest...and usually it's easily overcome with music or reflection..for me at least...
 

HollowHorizon

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Hey

Stay positive man, That is the best way to overcome anything, Stop caring about everything everyone else their actions thoughts, Just don't give a ****, Be happy look out your yourself. Be positive and keep that head upp.... Every time you answer your cell i want you to say " we are positive" When you talk to a girl just say HEEEEEEY GIRL, whats going on... get excited.. hyper even... show some enthusiasm!!!!!!!
 

Daddy The Pimp

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No you're not loosing it . It doesnt happen like this .
There are ups and downs in life . Just let it go and dont analyze everything .

Chill and try to find the joy on everything . And as HollowHorizon said , you should focus on being positive and finding the positive aspect of everything , even if its negative.
 

TheEnergizer

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ok i have the same problem some days. it almost always has to do with my morning. if i jump out of bed as soon as my alarm rings all happy and excited, my day is great. if i turn off the alarm and stay in bed for a few more minutes or fall back asleep, my day turns out slow. like you said, when my day starts slow the rest of my day just suffers from it. and i learned that your mindset and mood for the rest of the day pretty much depends on your morning, at least for me. did you have a slower than usual morning? you might want to start there.

one little problem to overcome is this thing called 'sleep inertia'. its the feeling you always get when you wake up in the morning and you just feel too tired to get up. youre dont actually need more sleep, but your body just wants to go back to sleep, or something. its especially effective during the winter, where its still completely dark in the morning or when theres just really nothing important going on in the day. this just takes sheer willpower to overcome. you might try to convince yourself that a few more minutes wouldnt hurt, but believe me ignore that. if youre really unlucky, you might even go back to sleep. tell yourself that the quicker you get up the better your day will be, that the sleep inertia will fade away quickly (it always does), force yourself to get up, whatever. in 5 minutes you wont even be tired anymore and you'll have more time in the morning and you'll be glad you made yourself get up promptly. youll be energized and in the right 'mindset' and mood.

i dont know if this is your problem, but it was mine and helped me a lot. just remember to not start your day slow, like you said, you will thank yourself later in the day, when your not suffering from lack of concentration and energy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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