Losing patience

[Matt Rogers]

I bumped into my one-itis from last autumn early in january and she seemed really pleased to see me and quite flirty. I had lost her number so i asked for it again. She said e-mail would be easier as she rarely picks up calls (this is true as we had this problem last term-her answerphone is permanently switched on)

We exchanged a few e-mails and attempted to arrange a meeting but she seemed constantly busy with some poor excuses. Eventually she came to a party of mine and it went quite well. She definitely likes me as a friend if nothing else as she is very friendly in her e-mail and always lights up when she sees me and persists in contacting me and the few times when i lost my temper and said "look i feel i am wasting my time-i am tired of your excuses. I am busy too but i make the time for people i want to know better. Perhaps i don't fall into that category for you" she apologises and keeps contacting me.

So I figure she has medium interest level and I am sure that if she actually let me spend some time with her i could raise it. So it is kind of frustrating.

I know i should have nexted her long ago, but all other girls bore me in comparison to her and she is so girly, adorable and sweet.
I have other girls on the cards and other options so i am not placing all my hopes on her but want her.

I am trying to figure out which is the way to go:

1. A grand gesutre on valentines day such as a love poem or declaration of my feelings

2. Next date make a deliberate move such as trying to kiss her and force her to reject me or accept me

3. Keep up this charade with occasional meetings and do my best to charm her and make her fall in love with me

Nexting is not an option

 

[Don_Joffe]

Matt, what did i tell you to do? KISS HER.

 

[cave dweller]

work.....

Hey,

Wake up..............

It is a broken record that you are playing.

It didn't work then and it won't work now.

Next.

cave dweller

 

[frivolousz21]

I am trying to figure out which is the way to go:

1. A grand gesutre on valentines day such as a love poem or declaration of my feelings

2. Next date make a deliberate move such as trying to kiss her and force her to reject me or accept me

3. Keep up this charade with occasional meetings and do my best to charm her and make her fall in love with me

Nexting is not an option






1. UM NO!



2. YES



3. UM NO!




if 2 fails..then you next her..and then procedd to the DJ bible to pick up your balls....then go talk to as many women as you possibly can..or before you do that...figure out why you are letting ur man hood be stripped

 

[thefonz]

Nexting is not an option [/B]

You mean not an option NOW? Or not an option EVER? Because the way you talk it sounds like the later.....I didn't work out man and you have to face the fact if she saw you as an afc then, it is going to take nothing less than the hands of Zeus to sway her into "high interest". And if it does happen i believe it will be out of your control so stop worrying and strategizing about getting her back.

It's an uphill climb with this girl......are you really prepared for the onslaught of disappointment and tears that will overcome you when she says NO. Is she really, and i mean REALLY worth all the work that could be spent on a girl with high interest?

 

[Matt Rogers]

Thanks guys. Next time I get her on a date I am going to put on all my charm and at the end of the date go for the kiss. I haven't made a move on her yet, and even if it doesn't come off at least i will have closure as she will be forced to reject me rather than keeping me at arms length. The best thing is she won't see it coming!

 

[DJDamage]

Thanks guys. Next time I get her on a date I am going to put on all my charm and at the end of the date go for the kiss. I haven't made a move on her yet, and even if it doesn't come off at least i will have closure as she will be forced to reject me rather than keeping me at arms length. The best thing is she won't see it coming!

Matt are you trying to convince this girl to think other wise of you? She already made up her mind and the fact that she acts flakey towards you (making excuses , appologizing and not suggesting alternative dates), should tell you that she is not intrested.

I know i should have nexted her long ago, but all other girls bore me in comparison to her and she is so girly, adorable and sweet. I have other girls on the cards and other options so i am not placing all my hopes on her but want her.

It sounds like the DJ in you says: I know I should have next her a long ago" but the AFC in you rears its ugly head by saying" but all other girls bore me in compariosn to her and she is so girly, adorable and sweet". It sounds like you are able to get dates with certain girls but it is the type of girls you know you can get. The type of women you can't get, you place them on top of the pedestal like you do your flakey friend.

If you want more "girly, adorable and sweet women" you need to tighten your game and don't treat certain women better then others.

 

[cave dweller]

poker

Matt,

It is a poker game..........

You need to cut your losses and move on...

cave dweller

 

[Luscious]

Every situation calls for a different tactic.

In this case, I believe you need to employ some Gunwitch method.

You've been stringing this out, so has she...and don't do anything gay like the Valentine's day trash.

Switch things up and get an answer quickly. Go out with her, and make that ho say no. Something tells me that all you need to do here is grab the balls and make a move - so do it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Your best move is to do absolutely nothing!!! Only respond if she initiates!!!

But because you "love" her so - you are not going to listen to our words - so do as you wish!!

 

[Matt Rogers]

Well I invited her on a date for Valentines. She said she had a charity event thing she promised to do with a friend but we could all meet together if we wanted. I turned up and she seemed pleased to see me. She was with friends so i spent most of my time talking to my friends and charming her friends. Her friend invited me to a houseparty they were both going to. I walked her friends and her back to their flat and her friend invited me in and we all chatted, although the girl i like spent most of the time talking to her friend.

She seemed a bit upset when I kinoed her-but i think she is quite repressed-she is Finnish and seems very conservative about a lot of things and very naive and childlike. She is also extremely shy.

I am thinking making a move on her might not be the best thing to do-as I think her main issue with me is trust as I am 2 years older than her, quite intimidating, confident and have occasionally lost my temper with her. But rather something romantic like a speech or a romantic gesture. I know it is AFC but i get the impression it might work on her.

I think she likes me but is confused and scared. I just fear that making a move so soon before she trusts me and relaxes more around me might scare her off.