"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Losing motivation

Chamber36

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1. Stopped hitting the gym properly about a month ago, in order to focus on school. Worked my balls off. Learned a lot. Still more work to be done though if I want to make it to the next year.

2. Can't stop jerking off. Almost every day do I jerk off. It's been over a year since I had a wet dream I bet. I know the feeling of just being so saturated with testosterone and energy that you just feel so energized and strong. I wouldn't mind getting it back.

3. I have ZERO plates. That's right: ZERO. And I'm 25 years old, and I believe I am goodlooking.

My game.... I dunno what the problem is. Sometimes I like a romantic approach, sometimes I just squeeze a tit or slap an ass. One problem that is consistent though, is that I never meet chicks for dates. Don't know why. I can get a make-out, or a quick lay, but not very often do I get dates.

4. Been spending thousands of euros on wh0res. Haven't had a ONS in months. I could have spent that money on nice clothes and maybe some refurbishing of my house.

Now I'm just broke and bored. My roommate moved out, so I'm getting a girl to move in in 3 weeks, even if only for a month.

I feel like I need more women around me in general in life. In school (I do civil engineering), it's nothing but dudes. I don't work. I just go to the bar if I wanna meet chicks, and I barely ever see them a second time after.

You could easily just respond and say that it's a certain time in my life where I need to focus on school and forget about chicks. But it's like they are a part of my life, and if I don't get attention from them or something, I just feel hollow. Last night for example I was at the bar, and a HB9 I know from secondary school gave me a kiss on my cheek as she greeted me. I thought I was indifferent as she is just some girl I know, but somehow it physiologically gave me a real sense of relief and a little happiness. Something about me though, made me want to hide the sense of elation I got, lol. I need some beautiful women around me. They are the only ones I really like.

Anyways, I'm gonna hit the gym now, hit the punching bag for a while, then do a boxing class (with 90% girls). It's nice to do something physical with girls on a friendly note. Especially since I basically am better than them at it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Chamber36 said:
I can get a make-out, or a quick lay, but not very often do I get dates
There are a lot of guys here who wish they could get the make-outs and quick lays without going on dates, lol. Just saying this so you realize everybody has problems, and you at least have something going for you. Sounds like you need to work on your self control and self discipline. You're going to school to better yourself and get a career going, hopefully.

That will be more fulfilling than any women, so you are right to try to switch the focus on that. The only exception would be if you are one of these entrepreneurial types, which you don't sound like.
 

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Chamber36 said:
Can't stop jerking off. Almost every day do I jerk off. It's been over a year since I had a wet dream I bet. I know the feeling of just being so saturated with testosterone and energy that you just feel so energized and strong. I wouldn't mind getting it back.
To porn? If yes, try this: if the compulsion to masturbate is overwhelming (which, I expect, it will be), jerk off without the use of porn. Apply the same strategy to any subsequent day. Eventually, with time, you will stop making a connection between porn and masturbation, and simply resisting the urge to jerk off will follow rather naturally (or you will scale back dramatically). That's been my experience, at least.
 

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lol, sometimes with porn, sometimes without.

I feel a bit better now though, that I hit the gym again last night, and stopped jerking off. Also, I couldn't go to the bar because I'm broke.

Watched a little Arnold Schwarzenegger. He said one of the most important thing is to set goals for yourself, with deadlines. That way you won't be wondering WTF you're doing, but you'll be going in a certain direction.

So, for example I want to pass all my classes in June, and possibly have a decent body so I can go to the beach and look cool.

So I just need to focus on all my studies and hitting the gym.
I'll try to forget about girls for the time being. If I look good, when the summer really comes here, and I have acheived something, my mojo will be better than ever.
 

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Chamber36 said:
So, for example I want to pass all my classes in June, and possibly have a decent body so I can go to the beach and look cool.
Bad mindset.


Stop fapping and save that energy for real life, after 21 days you will feel like a completely different person. Your eyes will look sharper and better. You will go after what you want and do your best to get it.

And no you can't focus on anything while your c0cka is always up and stiff. Focus on getting a girl first.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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