"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok, here is a quick rundown on the situation. My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now. Everything was going great for about 10 months and she lost interest in me. Her friends told me she lost interest in me and started to see another guy, but her feelings changed and she was back with me within a couple of weeks (after about two weeks of ganji games).

So now we're together once again and things seem to be going great...the only thing is I am worried she will lose interest in me again.

My question is this, how can I keep her interested in me? We currently see each other about 1-3 times per week (usually on the weekends only). If anyone has any suggestions on how to rekindle any fires again, it would be greatly appreciated.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My guess is she flakes again. How did you end up getting back w/ her. Who pursued that?
 
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I did not pursue her at all. I was completely over her until she started talking to me again. Then a rush of feelings came over me. It was she who initiated contact with me again.
 
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Dude, she's only with you because you are "plan B". That is to say, there is no other guy right now to have an exciting fling with.

I can just imagine what Doc Love would say in response to you, *cringe*.

Start chasing new skirts, today! Sure, hang on to that girl as your plan B, whatever. She's doing it to you, right? Then when you find someone else, pop it on her: guess what honey, I've lost interest and I'm going with another girl. Would you be so kind as to get back together with me when we're done? Thanks, sweetie.

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It doesn't matter that she initiated. There was no challenge to her initiation. Just a guy with a rush of feelings! Oops.

Whatever girl wants, she gets, is that how it is? Hmm.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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the moment people feel they know what to expect from you, your spell on them is broken. more: you hand your power over to them. the only way to lead the seduced along and keep the upperhand is to create suspense, a calculated surprise. people love a mystery, and this is the key to luring them further into your web, behave in a way that leaves them wondering, what are you up to? doing somthing they do not expect from you will give them a delightful sense of spontaneity-they will not be able to foresee what comes next. you are always in control. give her a thrill with a sudden change in direction.
 
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Originally posted by Austizzle
I did not pursue her at all. I was completely over her until she started talking to me again. Then a rush of feelings came over me. It was she who initiated contact with me again.
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Did this new dude dump her? If so you are rebound guy, I've been rebound guy too, so don't worry.

The prob here is that when women initiate, there is usually something fishy going on. If you are fvcking her, maybe she is using you for sex. Maybe she is trying to make new dude jealous, who knows.

The best thing you can do is not get too emotionally involved w/ this broad. Act like you don't give a fvck if the r'ship works or not, seriously. If you fail to challenge a girl your age they WILL flake. Make sure you keep her pvssy sore from your thrusting sclong. Your'e just in it for the sex.
 
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Originally posted by StringShredder
Dude, she's only with you because you are "plan B". That is to say, there is no other guy right now to have an exciting fling with.

I can just imagine what Doc Love would say in response to you, *cringe*.

Start chasing new skirts, today! Sure, hang on to that girl as your plan B, whatever. She's doing it to you, right? Then when you find someone else, pop it on her: guess what honey, I've lost interest and I'm going with another girl. Would you be so kind as to get back together with me when we're done? Thanks, sweetie.

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Yes, I have already thought about that possibility but she told this guy that she "was in love with me" (I know this because I was there to hear it). So that rules out that I am plan B if she told plan A that she didn't want to see him.
 
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Originally posted by crowes22
Did this new dude dump her? If so you are rebound guy, I've been rebound guy too, so don't worry.

The prob here is that when women initiate, there is usually something fishy going on. If you are fvcking her, maybe she is using you for sex. Maybe she is trying to make new dude jealous, who knows.

The best thing you can do is not get too emotionally involved w/ this broad. Act like you don't give a fvck if the r'ship works or not, seriously. If you fail to challenge a girl your age they WILL flake. Make sure you keep her pvssy sore from your thrusting sclong. Your'e just in it for the sex.
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Indeed, we're having sex and it could be a possibility...then again the question everyone seems to be passing by is...

How should I keep her interested? Spontaneity, etc... Any really GOOD ideas?

No this dude did not dump her, she told him off...read above post :p
 
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Look man, this thinking is gonna fvck you up. Read my post again. Your'e thinking "I don't want to screw this up". That is the fastest way to screw it up.

I'm not saying she doesn't like you, I'm saying she is showing some typical flake type female behavior. That is why you need to do what I said. Act like you don't give a shyt on the r'ship. Even if you do, act like you don't. Girls that age are totally wacked and you need to make them work to be w/ you.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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You are Plan B but you don't realize it... Things just didn't work out with this guy and your her fallback. Seems to me as if she if the one that makes all the choices.

Anyway, She left you and she'll do it again.
 
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Originally posted by Austizzle
Yes, I have already thought about that possibility but she told this guy that she "was in love with me" (I know this because I was there to hear it). So that rules out that I am plan B if she told plan A that she didn't want to see him.
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What she says doesn't matter all that much. Who knows why she said it to that guy? Maybe she wanted to get rid of him and he wasn't getting the message. She had to say something, and so of course, one thing she can say is "I'm in love with my plan B guy, sorry". It's too convenient! Or maybe she really is in love with you. Who knows? Who cares?

Just don't be in love with her, that's all. She's not safe for that. Her track record is that she loses interest and goes with another guy.
 
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Judge your decisions by what she DOES not by what she SAYS. If she says she loves you - that means nothing in light of her finding some other guy.
 
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She's already lost interest in you once. She WILL lose interest in you again.

She is using you as a side-project to tide her over until someone else comes along.

My suggestion is to go out there and find someone else. Once you've done that, dump your current flaker. Giving her a taste of her own medicine is the best thing for you to do in this situation.

Also, no matter what, DO NOT CARE about ANY CONCERNS she has. She should represent nothing to you but a good time in bed.
 
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