Losing interest possibly, no contact approach?

[Hellomisslady]

Hey guys, you might recognize me fromsome other threads I made aboutthis girl. Anyways, we started talking about a month ago, she gave me her number without me asking, sit next to her in anatomy and I see her every day. I've had her over twice, the first time we did 5 minutes of anatomy homework and then watched a movie, during which we had a tickle fight. The second time was Sunday night I had her over for about an hour to work on homework again. However, we are both extremely busy with sports and school and don't have much time ever to hang out. It seems as if the attraction she had might be dying down, even though there is still plenty of kino from both sides. I read igetit's sig and I want to do the no contact strategy to her to se what happens, that would mean no facebook/texting with her until Monday. But... She is in two of my classes which means I literally see her everyday at school. So what do you guys recommend doing? Tell me if u need anymore details.

 

[CaliGuyInLondon]

I think you should probably try to get Igetit! to respond as it is his technique but from my understanding that is like a last ditch effort, if there is still kino on her behalf and what not i don't think you want to ignore her for 5 days, given that you will see her in class. maybe just minimize you're contact. don't talk to her except when you see her in class. and when you see her be a social being, light up tell her its nice to see her, and then leave class and don't communicated with her.

that shows her that you are important. you were happy to see her, made her laugh but then you arent around as much, you're busy, you're the prize.

 

[Igetit!]

Hey guys, you might recognize me fromsome other threads I made aboutthis girl. Anyways, we started talking about a month ago, she gave me her number without me asking, sit next to her in anatomy and I see her every day. I've had her over twice, the first time we did 5 minutes of anatomy homework and then watched a movie, during which we had a tickle fight. The second time was Sunday night I had her over for about an hour to work on homework again.

The problem you have here is simple man.


There's either no chemistry,or the attraction here has SIGNIFICANTLY died off. I can tell that simply by what you've written here.


For one,you two see each other everyday. That's too much man. Without some distance,she can't miss you. In fact,if you keep this up,sooner or later you're going to get on each other's nerves.



Also,you seem to be bordering on the friendzone.



Although there has been plenty of kino,EVENTUALLY you'll have to make some sort of romantic gesture towards her,a hug,a kiss,a makeout session,etc.



I haven't seen any of that yet.,just a tickle fight,which a bunch of girls at a slumber party could do and no one would think is inappropiate.

However, we are both extremely busy with sports and school and don't have much time ever to hang out.

It's not the amount of time you two spend together,it's the quality of that time. If it were the amount,you wouldn't have a problem because you see her everyday,remember?



You could have spent the time you had doing the "tickle fight" strengthening the attraction she has for you.




Also,spending too much time/being too available is BAD.




If she's around you too much while NOT FEELING ANY ATTRACTION,you're headed straight for the friendzone,whether you realize it or not.

I read igetit's sig and I want to do the no contact strategy to her to se what happens, that would mean no facebook/texting with her until Monday.

To be honest with you,a little no contact would help you out,but the info in my signature is meant to CURE FLAKING.


It's supposed to be used once you get a girl's number,call her up for a date,then she flakes on you like 2 or 3 times.



Your situation is different.




I don't even think you can do the 5 day no contact with her because of school.




The best thing for you to do would be to increase the romantic attention from you towards her.



A kiss,tell her you like the way she looks in something. DON'T SAY,"You're hot", or any nonsense like that.



Say,"I LIKE the way you look in that (shirt/pair of jeans/whatever).




It's "I LIKE",not "you're hot" or "you're beautiful" or "you whatever"



Put yourself first. It's,"I" this or that.

"But... She is in two of my classes which means I literally see her everyday at school. So what do you guys recommend doing?

LOL,this is funny dude.


Most guys have a problem trying to get time with a girl.

You have a problem trying to get away from her,lol.



Like I said,you'll need to increase the romantic tension between the two of you. You have to,AND SOON.



Otherwise,it's friendzone city.

 

[Hellomisslady]

Thanks for the replies.
If it makes a difference, Sunday night when she left I held out my arms and got a hug from her. So complimets are good, as long as I'm saying basically it's something I appreciate and not putting 'you' in it?

 

[Igetit!]

Thanks for the replies.
If it makes a difference, Sunday night when she left I held out my arms and got a hug from her. So complimets are good, as long as I'm saying basically it's something I appreciate and not putting 'you' in it?

Yeah,it's ok to compliment her.

A lot of guys misunderstand this,though.


You have to compliment her in a way that shows YOU APPROVE of something,NOT BY PRAISING HER.


If you praise her,you'll pump up her ego.

If you show that something about her pleases you,you'll generate attraction.



Another thing to do would be to say something to her like,"Hey,I like that shirt you have on. It looks good,but you might want to run the iron over it a few times before you decide to wear it out again".



The look on her face will be PRICELESS.


She'll probably be so shocked,she won't know what to do.



I'd shock her with something like that,then right afterwards,I'd tell her I want to see her. Tell her you're going to so and so place,and YOU WANT her to come WITH YOU.



I know this seems crazy and doesn't make any sense,but you'll just have to trust me on this.


You're not trying to be "nice" with her here,the goal is to generate ATTRACTION.



Anyway,good luck man.

 

[Hellomisslady]

haha ya i know about busting their balls a little bit in a funny way. well see what happens if anything at school today, ill post back afterwards

 

[Hellomisslady]

Hey I just got back from school.
I didn't see her until my last period. I caught her looking over at me a few times and got some waves and a smile. When the bell rang we walked out at the same time and I put my arm around her for a few seconds. One of our mutual friends caught up to us just after we left, but I got in a quick "I like your lei" (it was Hawaiian day). We all kept walking and talking about the test we just took, and then we had to split up, I didn't say bye to her or anything, not like an awkward run away but she was talking to our friend so I just walked the other way

 

[909pua]

i guess what igetit told you to do is like a neg hit, i believe. im so bad at neg hits man... need more practice with them.