Losing faith in a lot of people. Rant

[Poonani Maker]

In my experience dealing with people, TRYING to grow friendships over the past couple of months with guys And girls, I'm losing faith in almost EVERYONE's reliability. I can't count on too many people in this world, I've gathered, from my experience these past couple of months. People Just Don't Own Up to what they say they're gonna do. It's pretty fvckin pathetic.

No one is a 100%, in good faith (except for like, my grandfather - the most sensible person I know; another is an engineer and mentor I know - I can count on both him And his wife to listen, give me wisdom, and to be there, very open-minded, all-inclusive perspective of our place in the world, that America ain't the only place to be happy).

Another thing is how much people gossip, and talk bad about others behind their backs. It makes you wonder what in the Hell they're saying behind Your back!

I'm beginning to think that our society as Americas, as even a "human" race is lost. We've debased ourselves to nothing but wandering roaming animals.

How do you count on anyone these days? The greater majority of peoples' words mean Nothing today.

 

[KontrollerX]

Yep you speak the truth.

The only thing we can do is try our best to filter out the scum.

 

[Julian]

Do not be jaded by the faults of humans. You gotta realize people are looking out for numero uno first and foremost. Especially as we get older. Just try and do good for others, dont expect jack**** out of the deal. Just do what you can to help and it will come back in some form.

You will also find that friends come and go...and you know its just like that sometimes....people will just be in your life for whatever reason, fulfill the purpose and then you grow apart. This goes both ways.

 

[Quiksilver]

Count on yourself man.

So far in my life, one of the most important things I've learned is to invest only as much faith/responsibility/trust in people around me as they show they deserve/can handle.

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Don't know someone at all? Don't give them any responsibility/trust.

Know someone a little? Give them a little responsibility.

Known someone for awhile? Give them some responsibility and faith.

Close friends? Give them responsibility, trust, faith. You can rely on your close friends, but they have to prove over time through consistent "good" behavior that they deserve your trust.

 

[Kupid Diggs]

"Always be alert and expect the worst..."

Expect the worst out of people and you'll be satisfied when they prove you wrong. I always make people prove themselves to me before I give them any responsibility. I always keep my distance from people not in my inner circle. One thing I have learned over the past couple of years is, if you want something done right you usually have to do it yourself.

"There's no honor among thieves"

 

[Da Realist]

If man is flawed, why expect so much?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

People will only let you down if you have an expectation of something from them. Learn how to enjoy the interaction, but don't expect them to follow up or anything. That way you won't be dissapointed, and if they do somehow reciprocate in any way, it is a pure unexpected bonus.

Trust no one.

 

[Buddhist Warrior]

Brother I sense your pain and anguish.

The real truth is our cultural climate is not so good right now. Back in the day people can really count on each other.

But unfortunately were living in the " Me and More Me" generation right now were people are inclined to work for their own benefits instead of trying to produce better societies for the good of all.

What I recommend is to start making buddhist friends lol haha : )

Okay but base on your motivation are you trying to find people whom you can be friend with and also make a good business dealings at the sametime?

If that's what you're trying to find, thats very impractical nowadays.

More or less its good to have friends in terms of people you can have sentimental good times with i.e. Going to coffee, having dinner parties, a funny or meaningful conversations etc.
And then its good to have people who are good business and social acquintances who does you favors.

You've got to seperate those two down the line. Hope this helps.