I think you want us to think you are a loser. Otherwise, why would you ask the question?Nikar said:To cut it short:
There's a female colleague I like (for 1+ year) and despite 1+ year together, we seldom talk. She has a boyfriend since day one.
Recently, we talked more and got along much better than before, but she will be leaving the company in 1 month's time.
I will be giving her a sweet and cute farewell gift that is guaranteed to make her heart melt, but I'm not asking for anything in return since I know it's 100% impossible between us. The gift is more like my silent dedication to her for being fond of her for 1+ year. After that, I'll make myself forget everything.
The question is: Am I a loser?
You just need to answer YES / NO.
No need for further comments.
Thanks!
Xeon
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Loser or not?
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