Lose erection before sex

[itishe]

I've noticed that sometimes before I have sex with my girlfriend I will think of a time that I lost an erection before sex and it will cause me to lose my current erection.

It's almost like falling off a bike and having the fear it will happen again so you your body will not let you ride the bike. It's like your mind wants to but your body will not allow.

I never have this problem besides when I think about it. I talked to my girlfriend about it when it happened and I tell her that it's a psycological thing and she is not the problem which is comforting to her. I try to not think about it, but instead think about having sex and enjoying it yet when I start to get an erection even if the slightest thought of it pops up my boner goes south.

It's extremely depressing to not be able to have sex just because I think of a certain thought.

Do you guys ever have this problem? If so how do you overcome it?

 

[Zerix]

Anxiety. Your simply thinking of a previous time that didn't go so well and you have fear it might happen again. Just relax it's nothing.

 

[KarmaSutra]

It happens to every one of us. There is no trick to it. You have to relax and let her fill your mind with passion and let said passion work it's way through your system.

You may want to look into Tantric yoga or Thelemic sex Magick in order to get your mind in correct balance.

 

[itishe]

I've heard there are some masturbation techniques that help reduce the chance of me losing my erection. Do you guys know of any mind tricks to lower anxiety before sex?

I know I lose it because I think of a time I lost it and I fear it will happen again. 100% garauntee that it will happen again.

 

[The Bat]

I know I lose it because I think of a time I lost it and I fear it will happen again. 100% garauntee that it will happen again.

Well there's your problem. You are anticipating the problem already. We can't help you if you can't help yourself first.

You have got to stop thinking about it. Think about your girlfriend instead.

 

[diablo]

Moved to AE...

 

[mastacheef]

I've heard there are some masturbation techniques that help reduce the chance of me losing my erection. Do you guys know of any mind tricks to lower anxiety before sex?

I know I lose it because I think of a time I lost it and I fear it will happen again. 100% garauntee that it will happen again.

im trying the masturbation technique of.. "not masturbating" haha.. because i recently could not get it up so after that night i stopped. its been about a week and 2 days since.. im actually glad i stopped.. its a dirty habit :rock:

im not saying you should stop but thats just how i am going about it

 

[itishe]

Yeah it's anxiety I can catch your "You are gay undertones".

 

[itishe]

Problem was improving for a while, I went quite a few sessions with no erection issues. It's come back though, very odd problem. I try to not think of it but even if it pops up for the slightest seconds I get it again. Really irritating.

 

[joekerr31]

try thinking of Fabio naked.

if that fixes your problem, then you'll know that you've got even bigger problems to worry about.