Legendat24
Don Juan
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I think that losing pickup skill can be common. I feel that going backward in your development is sometimes part of forward development. I think it is a common occurrence that no one wants to talk about. This has been on the back burner for a while but I want to finish writing it and get it out there so hopefully it can help some of you guys and I can make sense of it myself.
For a long time I was doing really well. I had a solid structure and a solid path and had it in my mind of what to do. It was almost as if I was climbing a mountain and had reached the first Peak. I looked out over all that I had accomplished and then went about undoing everything good I had just accomplished.
When I look back and think what went through my subconscious mind is, I don’t need to be working so hard anymore. Through out the first three months of writing about my experiences I was putting in tons of energy into changing myself. Lots of time and lots of energy. Then all of a sudden I started to get results. They started to become good results. I could get almost any girls phone number and I could open and get into a good conversation with almost anyone in the club. Many nights Edge and I pulled girls back to the house. Then something in me shifted. Looking back on it now I think my brain went look at all this good stuff you can do now. You don’t have to work so hard to change yourself anymore. Look its already working so chill out. Little did I realize that the very work I was doing was what was getting me the results. They had not become habit yet. I hadn’t fully changed.
My brain went this is silly “Let’s just be natural.” This marked the day of my descents back down the other side of the mountain. Slowly I stopped doing what worked and started being my old self. Needless to say I slowly digressed to a point where I could not approach.
My old self was the person that I had been conditioning myself to be over the last 10 years. The very person I wanted to fully change. A person that didn’t go after what he wanted. One that was a quiet shy person. So me being me is not something I wanted.
It is human nature to be lazy. It is something I feel that we should always monitor so we don’t slip backward. To evolve we always have to be pushing forward and upward. Never stopping until we are dead.
When we are trying to change ourselves I believe it takes tons of energy and time since we are changing years of conditioning. I don’t know if we can fully undo it but hopefully one day I can. I know one thing, I won’t stop trying. This snap back effect is something to be aware of and then it can be avoided. The solution I found to this problem is just to continue to actively put effort into trying new thing and continually remembering to do the things that work. They are all building blocks and you can’t stop doing them when they are working.
Legend
For a long time I was doing really well. I had a solid structure and a solid path and had it in my mind of what to do. It was almost as if I was climbing a mountain and had reached the first Peak. I looked out over all that I had accomplished and then went about undoing everything good I had just accomplished.
When I look back and think what went through my subconscious mind is, I don’t need to be working so hard anymore. Through out the first three months of writing about my experiences I was putting in tons of energy into changing myself. Lots of time and lots of energy. Then all of a sudden I started to get results. They started to become good results. I could get almost any girls phone number and I could open and get into a good conversation with almost anyone in the club. Many nights Edge and I pulled girls back to the house. Then something in me shifted. Looking back on it now I think my brain went look at all this good stuff you can do now. You don’t have to work so hard to change yourself anymore. Look its already working so chill out. Little did I realize that the very work I was doing was what was getting me the results. They had not become habit yet. I hadn’t fully changed.
My brain went this is silly “Let’s just be natural.” This marked the day of my descents back down the other side of the mountain. Slowly I stopped doing what worked and started being my old self. Needless to say I slowly digressed to a point where I could not approach.
My old self was the person that I had been conditioning myself to be over the last 10 years. The very person I wanted to fully change. A person that didn’t go after what he wanted. One that was a quiet shy person. So me being me is not something I wanted.
It is human nature to be lazy. It is something I feel that we should always monitor so we don’t slip backward. To evolve we always have to be pushing forward and upward. Never stopping until we are dead.
When we are trying to change ourselves I believe it takes tons of energy and time since we are changing years of conditioning. I don’t know if we can fully undo it but hopefully one day I can. I know one thing, I won’t stop trying. This snap back effect is something to be aware of and then it can be avoided. The solution I found to this problem is just to continue to actively put effort into trying new thing and continually remembering to do the things that work. They are all building blocks and you can’t stop doing them when they are working.
Legend