"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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While I was on ban, I saw a post on here with a link to site called lookism.net. I expected it to be a site full of whiny people, but it wasn't. They actually give a lot of good advice about improving your looks. But my question is... is it even possible to improve your looks that much? You can't do anything about the appearance of your face or your skull structure. I'm not even saying that I think anything is wrong with my looks in the first place. I've been called handsome, I've been called ugly, and everything in between. I've been called a 4/10 and an 8/10 on the same day by two different girls, so obviously there is no universal "good looking." But it doesn't hurt to maximize what you have.

Aside from the obvious of gaining muscle, maintaining appropriate body fat, and wearing nice clothes, the advice I was suggested was....

-Get a tan. I would go with a spray tan because less time consuming and no cancer risk.
-I was also told a very extensive process of facial cleansers/exfoliates/tonics/moisturizers that I should do twice per day. I was wondering is this too much? And it sounds good when you're sitting at home, but when you're at a bar, it seems kind of ridiculous to think that using some extra facial cleansers is going to make the difference.

https://www.dropbox.com/s/k7rsr297wmbpvt9/0824180507.jpg?dl=0

-do something about receding hairline. Once I have the money, I'll just do a transplant so I don't have to worry about chemicals.
-I personally think that height is one of the most important factors that affects a man's attractiveness. I am 5'8" whether I like it or not. I am not willing to get my legs broken to get taller despite what I have previously mentioned.

Here's a picture of my body.... Am I skinny-fat? I know I'm skinny, but am I also fat? I am down to 22.3% body fat from almost 26% a couple months ago. I started on keto for a couple weeks, but my doctor said it was unhealthy and he suggested Weight Watchers.

https://www.dropbox.com/s/1wqbgygeeg0yqp3/0826180018.jpg?dl=0
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Start lifting weights, or find a sport you like, such as BJJ. Also buy some clippers and stop looking like a hairy hobbit.
 
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Start lifting weights, or find a sport you like, such as BJJ. Also buy some clippers and stop looking like a hairy hobbit.
It's mostly only hookers that see me with my shirt off anyway. Responding to the hair body hair comment.

But I had a stripper over a couple months ago and she said she liked the chest hair.
 

zekko

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They actually give a lot of good advice about improving your looks. But my question is... is it even possible to improve your looks that much?
That's something I've always been skeptical about. Some posters here will claim that you can improve your looks indefinitely - just work out and it improves your jawline. That's great, but I've been working out since my 20s. Unless you have a lot of fat to take off, I don't think it's going to make that much difference. You can maximize what you have, but at some point you're always going to look like you. Johnny Cash is always going to look like Johnny Cash (not that that is a bad thing). Some people just look more appealing than others.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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That's something I've always been skeptical about. Some posters here will claim that you can improve your looks indefinitely - just work out and it improves your jawline. That's great, but I've been working out since my 20s. Unless you have a lot of fat to take off, I don't think it's going to make that much difference. You can maximize what you have, but at some point you're always going to look like you. Johnny Cash is always going to look like Johnny Cash (not that that is a bad thing). Some people just look more appealing than others.
I personally think that males shouldn't be judged on their looks at all. It should be like #100 on the list.

Bravery, perseverance, intelligence, etc. Those are the useful things that males do. "Looks" is for girls.

But it doesn't matter what I think, I suppose.
 

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Personally, I like chest hair
I don't think you body is bad but, since you are younger, It wouldn't hurt to bulk up a bit, esp your arms/chest. You will increase your attractiveness.

Get your diet under control (if it isn't) and remember that what you put into your body will eventually show on your Facebook. Be proactive now about eating well and taking care of your skin so you age well, this will open the age range pool wider as you get older.

Please don't develop a spare tire. Your opportunity pool shrinks drastically if you do that.
 
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Personally, I like chest hair
I don't think you body is bad but, since you are younger, It wouldn't hurt to bulk up a bit, esp your arms/chest. You will increase your attractiveness.

Get your diet under control (if it isn't) and remember that what you put into your body will eventually show on your Facebook. Be proactive now about eating well and taking care of your skin so you age well, this will open the age range pool wider as you get older.

Please don't develop a spare tire. Your opportunity pool shrinks drastically if you do that.
I actually lost 10 pounds in about 10 days a couple months ago when I first found out I was overweight. I'm back to normal weight now.
 

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Did this guy get banned again?? lmao
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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